My ex-boyfriend hit me..., but im still madly in love with him. Options

[Fallen4Mshadows]

ok... When i was a freshman in highschool i began to go out with this boy and i fell for him very fast and he fell for me fast as well. We were together for 2 years and towards the end like the last 4 or 5 months he began to change. He started getting mad and posessive and he hit me a few times and jerked me around a lot and even tried to choke me once. I found out soon after we broke up that he had started doing pot. Now we talk even though i broke up with him and i still love him dearly. he loves me as well and we've been talking about getting back together. He's quit doing pot and as far as i know stopped hanging out with most of the people that gave him pot. Should i stay away or consider getting back together with him? 'cause he's a really great guy and when he's not doing pot he's so sweet and nice and caring and a real gentleman... i dont know what to do. please help.

"Buildings burn, People die, but Real love is forever...."
-The Crow

[Oreo_bro]

Cycle of violence:

*Tension Building: Minor conflics and possible some physical abuse, spouse may think things will get better if they try to please the other more.

*Explosion: Some type of violence, may be triggered by an argument or fight, abuse may be phsycial sexual or emotional. Person left feeling worthless and depressed.

*"HoneyMoon": Abuser may become nice again, sorry/kind/loving/apolosive. Will promise that it will never happen again. Key word is promise, because it goes right back to tension building.

Sooner or later the cycle will start again, however the victem will not realize it because they feel they are in love, and they feel that if they try harder to please their "love" that things will get better, however it doesnt. It may be a few months or a few years, or the person may never realize this. A sad world we live in.


This is something we had to write down in my teen issues class and i thought i would share it with you CBers in this forum who are going through tough relationships. If you watch opra there was an episode a little while ago with a husband and wife. The husband treated her crap. He hurt her so bad, but never hit her. He would yell at her, make her feel worthless, make her think it was all her fault. Opra had a camera crew in the house and they actually taped it, it was bad. Both the husband and the wife came on the show and it was awful. The girl kept saying "i should have been stronger...it was all my fault" yada yada yada..he said he would change.

2 months later he was back to the old ways.




this guy doesnt deserve u, find some one eles, if u dont it will hurt u in the long run.

good luck