to date, or not to date? Options

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Alright. So if you had the choice of being in a serious relationship with someone "safe" OR testing the waters a bit and leading an exciting and more "daring" dating life instead, which would you choose?

I ask because I'm currently in that sort of situation. There is this guy I've been seeing for 2 1/2 years but we recently broke up. Since then, I've been dating around a bit and have actually been having a pretty good time too. The problem is, I don't really share a "deep connection" with any of the other guys I've been dating. It's all just for "fun" and to add a little spice to my love life I guess, but nothing serious. My ex boyfriend on the other hand, is total hubby material and he's recently expressed his desire to get back together and to repair the problems we had before. Now I don't know what to do because one part of me wants to be with him, to love him as I had before. But the other part of me wants to continue this more spontaneous and thrilling lifestyle I've picked up. I mean, I am only 21 years old, should I be settling down already? I really do love him but I'm worried that I'm missing out on something... at the same time, I don't want to lose him either.

I hope this isn't all to confusing. I'm sure I'm making it more complicated than it is.

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eh that sucks roxy haha... either way u will feel unsatisfied no?

well...first choose what u value more, a deep serious relationship or crazy spontanious fun?

Honestly in ur situation ... i woldnt really consider settling down, if u feel like ur missing out on fun, have fun...and maybe on the way u find someone who will connect with u like ur ex boyfriend did,but only in a different way....

"Dont leave the one you love for the one you like" that quote is..uGhZ makes u think huh....

Hrm and ... another thing i want to add, maybe u should hook up with ur ex again,but just work on the part of the relationship u lack with him...like the fun ,spontanious crazy stuff...you know... im sure theres more to ur relationship but yea.

For Me? I'm only 17 heh... i enjoy wild crazy momments , and fast relationships... but it wouldnt hurt to have someone i can just be with for a long time do what regular couples do and stuff... Bleh i've lived both kind of lifestyles and i enjoy them pretty much equally... Damn tough situation... But realizing that i do have alot of time b4 i have to start settling down...ima have to go with the crazy fun life style for now.

I mean... Just think about it roxanne...what do u value more in a relationship? Where are u at in ur life rite now? 2 and 1/2 years is alot to throw away just for a few crazy momments isnt it? Do u think it will work if u 2 try to give the relatinship another go?

Wow ... sorry roxanne haha...kinda babbled....hope its not too confusing...and sorry i dont i have an answer ><;