criticism, how well can you take it? Options

[queen]

so yah, it's no news that there's a lot of drama going around, especially because people confuse constructive criticism with blatant ignorance. the object of constructive criticism is to better the quality of one's work; that is the only reason why such a form of criticism exists. any other form of criticism or opinions stated without facts/experience/plausible reason behind it is plain ignorance, of which, too often, we are guilty.

there's a lot of unnecessary drama going on, but i know all of us are guilty of being amused by it at some point. it just gets annoying when everyone jumps on the bandwagon hating on a specific someone. if it started out between two people, then it should end between two people. everyone else who joins in on the argument is guilty of the hypocrosy s/he writes about because essentially s/he is just fueling the anger.

people state their opinions in different ways. some people happen to be more blunt, more honest, more "bitchy" as you say, than others. it's really not your problem how they get their points across; you do not need to get involved in the matter. you also have to keep in mind not everyone will approach everything in a happy-go-lucky way.

when it does involve you, you can still choose to ignore whatever criticism was given to you. if you know that person can be harsh in making constructive criticism, then skip his/her comment, for crying out loud ;x. it's also greatly annoying when you change the subject matter to something utterly childish. a mature debate/argument is done without making personal attacks against each other that has nothing to do with what you were arguing about in the first place. if you started out talking about a layout, then end it there. you don't need to go on about the person's "attitude" 'cause it has no relevence whatsoever to the original argument.

it also doesn't help your argument when you talk about one's grammatical errors. i can guarantee no member of createblog has perfect grammar. if you can't diagram the sentence, then it's not correct, and i've seen a whole lot of un-diagrammable sentences out there. no one has right to talk shit about anyone's grammar unless all your posts are perfectly diagrammable.

those are my thoughts ;p so...how well can you take criticism?

[queen]

yah, trishtot. i think the suggestions you made on xanga showcase were valid. everything just got hyped up when people started mentioning your "attitude" or "reputation" or whatnot. people expect too many applauses these days. criticizm will appear in many different forms, yet they fail to see yours were actually constructive... then again i guess it's just a difference in opinion like what uninspiredfae said:

Criticisms aren't bad when they're constructive, I agree, but we may hold different opinions on what is constructive.

yes, people have differences in opinion about what is "constructive", but there are still some clear cut examples out there. i mean it's kind of obvious if the person's just trying to put you down or is actually giving his/her honest opinion on something.

Grammar mistakes are the funkiest kind of criticism on this board because sometimes they're true and needed to be said and sometimes they're just mean and unneccessary. I don't like it when a person doesn't even think about what he/she is writing and expects me/someoneone else to read it. It's ridiculous. I care about opinions and try to read everyone's, but when the person don't care to write in a way others can understand, their opinions are worthless.

well, i wasn't referring to the comments regarding those wh0 typ3 lykE diS, but those who criticize people's grammar, even though his/her grammar isn't perfect either. for example: anyone who chooses to criticize my reluctance to use proper capitalization. ;x