criticism, how well can you take it? Options

[queen]

so yah, it's no news that there's a lot of drama going around, especially because people confuse constructive criticism with blatant ignorance. the object of constructive criticism is to better the quality of one's work; that is the only reason why such a form of criticism exists. any other form of criticism or opinions stated without facts/experience/plausible reason behind it is plain ignorance, of which, too often, we are guilty.

there's a lot of unnecessary drama going on, but i know all of us are guilty of being amused by it at some point. it just gets annoying when everyone jumps on the bandwagon hating on a specific someone. if it started out between two people, then it should end between two people. everyone else who joins in on the argument is guilty of the hypocrosy s/he writes about because essentially s/he is just fueling the anger.

people state their opinions in different ways. some people happen to be more blunt, more honest, more "bitchy" as you say, than others. it's really not your problem how they get their points across; you do not need to get involved in the matter. you also have to keep in mind not everyone will approach everything in a happy-go-lucky way.

when it does involve you, you can still choose to ignore whatever criticism was given to you. if you know that person can be harsh in making constructive criticism, then skip his/her comment, for crying out loud ;x. it's also greatly annoying when you change the subject matter to something utterly childish. a mature debate/argument is done without making personal attacks against each other that has nothing to do with what you were arguing about in the first place. if you started out talking about a layout, then end it there. you don't need to go on about the person's "attitude" 'cause it has no relevence whatsoever to the original argument.

it also doesn't help your argument when you talk about one's grammatical errors. i can guarantee no member of createblog has perfect grammar. if you can't diagram the sentence, then it's not correct, and i've seen a whole lot of un-diagrammable sentences out there. no one has right to talk shit about anyone's grammar unless all your posts are perfectly diagrammable.

those are my thoughts ;p so...how well can you take criticism?

[*[2]Nekked*]

i admit, i dont take criticism very well if its coming from someone with less experience than me. you can probably figure out who the few people are that i take criticism from.. queentot being one of them, my old hostess, chrissy, most of my hostees on raw-intent, etc...

I guess it's just that... if i know you are less experienced than i am, then it's hard for you to judge what direction i was trying to go in, in terms of design and theme. So when someone criticizes me about something that looks a bit out of the norm; when that was the entire point of the design, i just sort of get aggrivated, because in my mind, thats just sort of ignorant.

criticism that steers the designer away from her actual theme/design is not applicable criticism, in my opinion.

anyways, i agree with queentot. there are different ways to go about criticizing other people... i tend to just get to the point and say it as bluntly as i can, because in my opinion, theres no use dancing around the issue. to my knowledge, i have never purposely insulted anyone's work, but only try to give them suggestions, and point out what could be worked on..

when you post your xanga up in xanga showcase, you have to expect this kind of critique, among others. that's what showcase is. it's not the forum u goto for an ego boost. not everyone is going to agree with everyone else when they say its perfect. no design is ever perfect. there's always something that you can add or work on, and i just try to point out the ones that are most obvious to me.

just try not to take it so personally. it really has nothing to do with my attitude. im just trying to be helpful. you can either take my advice, or ignore it. it's your choice, and i'm not trying to force my opinions on anyone, so just keep that in mind.