I have a problem..., and its about time i ask for help.. Options

[Oreo_bro]

Okay guys, your my family so im askin ya for help with a girl.

Little background on me, im 17 (turn 18 in december), i am a senior, and have never had a romantic kiss and i have never ever had a girlfriend, i've been asked out a few times but i didnt because i didnt feel it was right. Now for my problem.

There is this girl i have known for about 4 years. We met sorta in our freshman year but i didnt see her much or pay attention. This really started when we were in 10th grade (sophmore) and she got a boyfriend. Now, i thought she hated me cause of something i said, and she thought i hated her cause of the way she treated me.

this is where things get interesting.

So yeah shes dating this guy and they breka up like..uh..4 times during their sophmore year? but always get back together. So the year ended and summer came and went, i had a crush on her best friend but never said anything till the next year...

Jr year.
So this year is when the majoy things happended. Start of the year i found out that she didnt hate me (i found out she thought i hated her) and vice verse, she was still dating her ex. Anyways they were having relationship troubles and i told her she could come to me with anything that happended if she needed to talk, and she did lol. We would walk together and stuff, iw ould hug her and comfort her *i rember once we were sitting under a tree with me stroking her hair as she cried into my shoulder, *, and thats when i really found i started to like her.

Okay lets backtrack and see if everyone is at the same place. 1.) she and her bf are having a rough relationship with breakups and stuff. 2.) She first thought i hated her, now she comes to me for help. 3.) im begining to like her.

okay good now back on track.

Anyways they broke a few more times and got backtogether, then summer came. Now this girl is very dependant on things, her bf left for the whole summer without telling her in adv that he was leaving, no goodbyes or anything. She took it very very bad and went into depression and stuff. Again i was there for her, my love for her growing stonger, but staying hidden. Anyways her bf would call her some times saying he loved her or "can i kiss this one girl" and stuff *id smack him now lol* and then he came back 2 weeks before school started and things were different. The kisses were diff and everything.

So they broke up for a final time, and he made her feel like s***, which depressed her big time, agin i was their for her. Then school started.

Senior year, which is now.
So now its our senior year together, she has thanked me over and over again for the help, she said she couldnt have done it without me. She has said "i love you" and stuff like that more then once but at first i knew it was in a friendly way. Thing is i really still do truly sincearly love her but i cant bear my hear to tell her cause i mean if she doesnt love me that means i will be rejected which my heart cant take *was rejected 4 times already this summer* and it could ruin our beloved friendship. I do not know what to do anymore, she is a flirty girl and flirts with lots of guys sorta, but her best friend has told me she doesnt like them that way, and she thinks i should just go for it but i dont know i dont know what to do!

so im asking for your help..please..should i tell her..yes..or no..

[travnewmatic]

yeah, the relationships that are currently friendships, but one memeber would like it to be something more are hard to negotiate. i went through a similar situation. i was really interested in this one girl for a long time, she discovered her "dating" side and went off with some dood. the dood broke her heart. to make a long story short, she never so me as "boyfriend material" = LETS JUST BE FRIENDS. i think it would be safe to say that whenever a dood hears this from some chick that hes been after for quite some time, he nearly keels over. almost as bad as a kick to the groin. depending on the circumstances, worse. (i cringe at the thought myself) now contrary to popular belief, girls are people too (at least tahts our latest theory as to what they are, if not vixen). and, being the human beings that they are, they have emotions too. and im sure that she would hate to hear the same from you. but tahts not really the case. you like her. you dont nkow whats up with her. if youve known this girl for a long time, as you say you have, youve got some molds that need to be broken (possibly). she may already see you as the friend thats a dood and no more. if thats the case, lets hope that youre not the firend thats a dood that could never be anything more. tahts worse. but also in thsi mix is an element of night in shining armor/damsel in distress/rescue going on. as much as you will deny this up and down, you may be setting yourself up to be the rebound. not bad, but you gotta pay the piper some how. meaning, sure, she "needs" you now, but there will come a time when youve filled that gap and... then what? if that was the only gap in here life that she had or that was the only gap the you could fill, you just put yourself out of a job. it could be a case of building a house on sand. but if that friend actually does know what your chick is thinking, and is giving you sound advice, then go for it. i gotta hand it to you for being so dilligent in so far as being able to take that many rejections. kudos. i say, its senior year. live it up. and you say you (personally) have never kissed? neither had i, until i spent like 4 hours parked in a parking lot, sitting in the back of a van. for me it took THAT MUCH TIME. i was so much of a weenie. still am, but less then before. (for me i have to have that formal "im dating you" agreement signed in my head before i could bring myself to kiss a girl, but thats just me) if youre like me in that respect, if you wanna fix the never been kissed record, start dating her, spend what seems like days in an intimate atmosphere (putting on wicked game by chris isaac makes girls melt... and some guys, too), and things will happen. also, concerning her flirtatiosness, be careful. hopefully you mean more to her than whatever other guy she associates with. taht was an issue that i had with my current girlfriend. most of her friends were guys and that was a little disturbing to me, but i eventually got over it. bottom line:
ASK HER OUT
BALLS TO THE WALL
BE HARDCORE