A Long Distance Relationship, with the guy you know is true....... Options

[luckyxi3]

i met this guy on xanga and we started to talk.

at first he was just some guy who usually just ims you to tell you about visiting your site.

then later on we became good friends and i think he asked me out in a way. asking me about age difference and distance.

but here`s the problem.. he lives all the way in nevada [las vegas] and i live here in ny. another problem is he`s 19 while i`m 14 and he`s planning to go to the navy in 3 months. i just think that age is a number but IF we ever did think about getting married, i know my parents wouldn`t let me get married that young while he`s like already old and should`ve gotten married. i just don`t wanna hold him back

i totally like him and he`s an amazing person. we totally understand each other and basically know what each other says or feels.

i`ve asked my friend already if i should take this risk. she said no because it will be hard for me because he`s gonna be going to the navy for years.

i wish he would just change his mind about going to the navy and move here to ny.. but i don`t wanna change what he thought about in years and the fact that i`ve only been in his life not that long. that`s only destiny at work if it does really happen.

what would you do or what should i do? let go of the guy i know could be mr. right or just go for it and find out the consequences?

he always told me to think before i do or say anything because it will eventually always end up with consequences. well i`ve thought about it for so long and i don`t know what are my consequences...

[luckyxi3]

hey thanx guys for your advices! and best wishes to HP and Lm1031. hope everything works out for you two!

well i guess i posted this thread a month ago. well next month [nov 24] is when HE`S leaving for the navy. weird `cause that`s also my brother`s birthday. anyways getting off topic, we`ve talked [on the phone and internet several times] and i`ve thought everything through. i`ve decided that... i`m willing to wait for him. i mean if i say he is the right guy for me, then why not wait? since there`s no other guy out there for me. but he told me once that he didn`t want me to be his girl because he didn`t wanna make me wait and endure pain. he`s received so much pain in his life and i could really care less if i get pain from this.. because he`s worth it. i wanna steal his pain away and owe him the happiness he deserves/deserved from the people that hurt him in the past. I WANNA BE THERE FOR HIM. besides, when he gets out i`ll be older and he`ll be able to meet by then. do navy people get little vacations while they`re in the navy? [please answer] and what i want right now is to ask him if he could consider coming here to NY to visit my before he leaves. that`s beyond my dreams lol. well yeah, so anyways i still didn`t tell him what my thoughts are but i will. i don`t know if he`ll approve of this long distance thing because he said he didn`t like em.. but i also don`t know if he`ll change that thought for me. so yeah and i hope that when we talk i can show him this thread so he can know everything. i was thinking of naming a star after him--like in that movie "A Walk to Remember". is it wrong to love him so much now? i know that might seem like a "dumb-girl" thing to say but yeah, i guess it`s true. i`m not blind, i`m not obsessed.. i`m in love

THANX GUYS FOR ALL OF YOUR ADVICES!