im a worrier, not a worrior Options

[mony0407]

ok ok ok i know most you people don't care about this but.. if any girls are like me then they are protective of their boyfriends and tend to worry alot about girls in the *past*. soo the story..

[ me and my boyfriend met about 5 months ago and we started "talking" and immediatly liked each other is seemed but before we could hang out he had to go to florida (i live in texas) for 3 weeks to a soccer camp. but he told me i was the only person he liked and same from me to him. but 3 weeks and i barely got to talk to him while he was gone my ex boyfriend came into the picture and well when my present boyfriend got back from florida i was suddenly caught up with my ex. okay but anyways a day later i broke it off with my ex b/c my feelings for this new guy were strong. soo me and him got together and he is now my boyfriend of *2 months* . but the past girls thing just came to be a problem because one of his friends Subcribed to my xanga and 1 of my friends who knows her told me so i went and looked and being bored read some of her posts from back when me and my boyfriend were just "talking". and the 3 weeks he was at the florida camp she said things in her xanga about him and how they talked on the phone and stuff while he was gone. so much for me bein the only girl he liked . and why arent they together? b.c she went out of town the day after he got back from florida.. lucky me what if she hadnt gone? i wouldnt have my boyfriend she would.. well anyways i've been sick 2 weeks with Mono and so i havent seen my boyfriend.. and when you away from someone so long its scary cause everyday you feel like your getting more and more apart and i WORRY constantly that im going to LOOSE HIM, my everything, to >her< .]

question: [ girls.. do any of ya'll have a similiar WORRYING problem!? how do you fix it? how do you reasure yourself that everything will be *okay* i know its possible.. i just havent figured it out yet.. ]

(sorry so long.. i like spilling my guts)

[Falon]

Have you considered talking to -him- about this? Just because he liked someone other than you before you two were together, doesn't mean he does now.

There is always a change in any relationship that you might 'lose' the other... Sometimes it's a big change, other times, it's almost immeasureable - but it's there. You can help minimise this chance by being honest and open with each other - I know it sounds rather stereotypical, but it's true. Talk to -him.- Don't make it confrontational though. Make it a rather neutral conversation, and let him talk, listen to what he has to say. If you interrupt him every 3 words, or act upset, it'll put him on edge and could result in a fight - remember to breathe...

Don't be afraid to talk to him - if he really cares about you, he'll want you to be happy, and will usually try to allay your fears. Just don't jump to conclusions.