falling for your bestfriend, help! >.< Options

[jihae526]

hm yeah i need some help because i'm falling for my bestfriend AGAIN. we already went out before and stuff, and all of my friends say there still is chemistry, but should i say anything? i really want to go to homecoming with him too. ugh i'm so hopeless! any advice?

[Falon]

I don't really think that this is a question you can get a valid 'yes'/'no' answer from strangers... Love is a game of the heart that must sometimes be played with the mind.

Ask yourself not just about NOW but also about the FUTURE. Could you stand it if you two broke up? HOw would it affect your friendship? Is that a risk you're willing to take? Which is more important to you, him as a friend, or him as a boyfriend? What's best for him? What does HE want?

You said that you've already tried this, and it failed. Has anything changed since then? Have you become a different person? Has he? Would you be able/willing to make time for him? Maybe you need to put this relationship thing on hold, wait until you can and are able to give him the time he deserves. Remember, it's not just your emotions in the balance, but his too.

And why, pray tell, can't you go to Homecoming with him as a friend? That's what I do, and actually what a lot of people do. That way, neither has to feel like they can't dance with someone else if they want, and who knows, perhaps, durring a slow dance with him, he'll ask you if you wouldn't, perhaps, mind being his girlfriend...

Follow your heart - it knows what it wants.