boyfriends, wat 2 do Options

[LoST SouL]

yes idk wat do do my b/f keeps yellin at me n its gettin on my nevers n i kant stand bein single but i still do love him is lovin him the rite thing 2 do?

[Just_Dream]

You dont' always have to have a boyfriend. SURE, you can feel lonely, but is it better to love someone who always ends up hurting you or makes you cry? How can you let him treat you like this? I mean, if you truly love him, then you woudl tlak to him. At least try to make things WORK. You say you WANT to try, but you don't, or at least it seems so. If you treally DID want to try, then you would've somehow fixed this. Maybe he isn't the one for you. My friend loved someone who wasn't there for her. The beginning he was ther, but later on, it changed. Eventually, the broke up, and he left holes in her heart becuase she never recieved any love in return for giving her heart away. It's going to hurt, but I don't think he would be right for you then. EVEN if you've been together for so long, he seems to be very angry and such.

And in the end, what if you end up hurt, broken hearted, and maybe even phsyically abused? You'd give yourself up like that for love? Because if you do, you MUST realize what sort of thing you're really getting yourself into. I've been with my bf for just as long and people tell me that I shouldn't be so considerate and stuff towards him, but he's not abusive or angry or anything. He's there for me and I love him, and if I talk to him about it, he'll understand, or eventually he will. He just needed a little push towards the understanding part. You need to talk to your bf YOURSELF! And if you already TRIED and failed, maybe he's not the one. EVEN if you love him so much. People get their heart broken everyday, by people that they love. They grow stronger from it.

We're giving you our input and we hope that you will follow it because if you really want your problem solved, you HAVE to take CONTROL of your relationship. It seems like you don't have much control. If he's always makign you cry, and always hurting you and isn't even TRYING to make things work, you'll find yourself throwing your heart away, sinking it down to the deepest, darkest ocean. Don't let yourself get hurt any longer. Don't sit around and le thim push you around. There's plenty of fish in the sea...

---Christina