A Long Distance Relationship, with the guy you know is true....... Options

[luckyxi3]

i met this guy on xanga and we started to talk.

at first he was just some guy who usually just ims you to tell you about visiting your site.

then later on we became good friends and i think he asked me out in a way. asking me about age difference and distance.

but here`s the problem.. he lives all the way in nevada [las vegas] and i live here in ny. another problem is he`s 19 while i`m 14 and he`s planning to go to the navy in 3 months. i just think that age is a number but IF we ever did think about getting married, i know my parents wouldn`t let me get married that young while he`s like already old and should`ve gotten married. i just don`t wanna hold him back

i totally like him and he`s an amazing person. we totally understand each other and basically know what each other says or feels.

i`ve asked my friend already if i should take this risk. she said no because it will be hard for me because he`s gonna be going to the navy for years.

i wish he would just change his mind about going to the navy and move here to ny.. but i don`t wanna change what he thought about in years and the fact that i`ve only been in his life not that long. that`s only destiny at work if it does really happen.

what would you do or what should i do? let go of the guy i know could be mr. right or just go for it and find out the consequences?

he always told me to think before i do or say anything because it will eventually always end up with consequences. well i`ve thought about it for so long and i don`t know what are my consequences...

[xoxspanky569]

Here is the things that a relationship needs:

1. Faithfulness
The guy is 19 and your 14...which means you are legally not aloud to have sex...if you DO end up dating..i highly doubt that he would want to wait 4 years for it...and he might end up cheating on you..which would suck.
2. Trust (related to faithfulness)
You need to be able to COMPLETELY trust this guy and have ZERO doubts about him. Seeing as you've never seen him before, never really met him, and he's 19 and your 14, things are going to be EXTREMELY hard in this catagory.
3. Contact
Whether you like it or not, you are going to have to be able to see each other once a month AT THE LEAST, if you can't manage that, things wont last long at all.
4. Similarities
You guys have to like some of the same stuff, so that you have things to talk about.
5. Differences
By having differences you have your own opinion...if you guys can accept each others opinion, that's good, you need to be able to do that.
6. Humor
You need to be able to laugh at the dumb things you guys do...or you will constantly be mad. No one likes a CONSTANTLY serious person.
7. Attraction
It's nice to have close friends, but if you want a romantic relationship with this guy, you are going to have to be physically attracted to him.
8. Conversations
You guys need to be able to consult in each other, no matter what the subject at hand may be, you need to be understanding, and you need to listen.

Well....if you guys can manage that...then things should work out...if not...then don't bother.

The doctor is out,
Spanky