boyfriends, wat 2 do Options

[LoST SouL]

yes idk wat do do my b/f keeps yellin at me n its gettin on my nevers n i kant stand bein single but i still do love him is lovin him the rite thing 2 do?

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

from wat i kud tell u n ur b/f have been together 4 3 yrs rite.. well ur so lucky n tass wat i want 2 happen wit me n my b/f i wanna try n make tis relationship work.. my longest relationship was 2 yrs n it relly hurt felt worse then diein wen he left n tis time i dun wanna get hurt like tat so im tryin 2 mae thins work out but wat do i do 2 make thins betta...

yea .. we've been best friends for 4 and been together for 3 .. but we've had our share of ups and downs .. right now we're having a little downside .. we're still seeing each other .. but we're being patient and taking things day by day .. relationships are NEVER easy .. and i understand exactly how you feel .. of course you want to be with someone and be proud to say it's been for a very long time .. but sometimes if it isn't with the right person it could all be for nothing .. if HE also wants to make things work and you're both willing to work TOGETHER .. then go for it .. but if the feelings aren't mutual that's where the problem really starts .. i know what it's like to really care about someone for a long time and for them to drop you like you meant nothing .. it truly does hurt .. but you have to learn to stay strong despite it and move on .. the world doesn't stop for one person .. and you did ended up finding someone else to make that hurt go away .. so you can do it again if you have to .. one thing you have to accept when you feel that you love somebody is that *love is pain* .. love isn't that fairy tale, dream come true kinda thing that people WANT it to be .. love requires time, patience, sacrifice, and often great endurances of suffering..love makes you realize that no matter how much it can hurt if things don't work out that it was still worth it for the time that it did last and you'd never trade it for anything else in the world ..

my advice to you if you want to make things better is to talk to him about how you feel. first find out if he ALSO wants to make things work with you guys ..

be patient .. it all takes a lot of time and you both have to be willing to endure it together no matter how long a period of time it is ..

also, don't try to force love .. you can't force it if it's not there anymore.. or at least for the time being .. let things take it's natural flow and it'll be okay..

lastly, establish amongst each other a policy of respect .. you should both treat each other right .. he shouldn't be treating you wrong all the time and making you feel bad because you certainly don't deserve that .. give each other some space at times when needed .. and if they truly care as much as they say they do .. trust me .. they'll ALWAYS come around .. =]