family relationships..., problems... Options

[aud_chua]

(i didn't really know where to put this... but it's a kind of "relationship" problem, right???)

this has been bothering me for a really long time already....
just wanted to see if anyone can help me out here...

your mother wants to be that "caring" person she's supposed to be. as a result, she invades too much of your private space. then, she also wants to "help" you with your school work. she ends up being demanding. one more thing, she calls her wild mood-swings and yelling as "lessons."
i truly love my mother but she makes it so hard to understand. yelling every single day, and telling me that i'm not good enough... that doesn't seem like a good mom. i mean.. just the other day, i told her that my school's mock trial team didn't advance to the state finals. guess what she said. "you're team is just not good enough. accept it." she could have said something more comforting..

aside from my aggravating mother, i have these two elder sisters. aside from being older than me, nothing else makes them what they are. i mean.. they depend on me for so many things. both of them act so immaturely, it's not funny. one of them always asks for help with her homework and term papers. while i stay at home and do it for her, she goes out and party with her boyfriend. when i do tell her to do her work by herself, she counters me. "what kind of a sister are you?!?! why won't you help me!??!" that's what she'd say. and i'd try to explain that she has to be independent and learn things on her own. later, she'll tell me "you have to help me now!! i'll do my work next time!" but she never does... the other one is always acting like a child, i have to watch over her every second when i'm out with her. in some aspects, she's mature, i.e. holding a job. but other than that, her attitude is like a child. she throws tantrums easily. then she looks at cartoons all the time and tries to emmulate them. also, some of her actions are not proper. i try to correct her but she makes it impossible. she tells me, "i was born this way! there's nothing you can do..!"
i only have so much patience and endurance in this body. there comes a point when i just want to scream at them. but then, they're my older sisters, my kin.. i don't want to seem like i'm being mean..

so my question is...
what should i do?? should i be indifferent to my feelings or tell them? should i ignore them? or something...

tnx very much for taking the time to read this! ^_^

[xjjajeengx]

i feel you... i have family problems as well. even tho i dont gots a sister and stuff, its only me and my mom at home. ever since i was a child, i was so messed up cause i felt sad wen my dad wasnt there. wen we had fahter's day, my dad wouldnt be there. wen it was my bday, daddy wouldnt be there. he was never there since kindergarten till 4th grade, and by that time, i was already quite angry with him. we dont talk anymore, he doesnt call, its like i dont him.
aside from that, my mom has this problem with like trying to manipulate me to get me to follow her orders. she'll tell me 6 hours of study everyday (but i never listen lmao) she has problems. its just gay. she told me if i dont make it to troy IB, then im a failure to her and the rest of her family. -_-x

anyways! hmm...
as for your mother, i wouldnt noe. maybe talk it out, but if your like me, i wouldnt talk it out cause im too just... stubborn. just try to understand her i guess. if you think what she is saying is wrong, tell her why you feel that way. but if she asks of something you can do, try to do it for her. actually, i think getting in fights wih parents in a way is a good thing, because it helps you guys compromise and teaches ur parents what they are doing wrong. if you dont say anything all your life, then your just gunna end up being on the pityful side. or at least, thats how it is for me... but in my case, i try to listen cause my mom is by herself, and i dont want to make anythin worse unless she is making my life plain out miserable.
as for your sisters, just ignore what they say and stuff. if one of them makes you do her hmwk and crap, do it really crappy so she'll get an F. it'll teach her to do her own sh!T. and if she complains to you, complain back to her. i hate people like that... never doing their own work and dd0ng.
and your other sister? if shes being childish, be the one thass mature. it'll hopefully give you more pride and more respect from them