family relationships..., problems... Options

[aud_chua]

(i didn't really know where to put this... but it's a kind of "relationship" problem, right???)

this has been bothering me for a really long time already....
just wanted to see if anyone can help me out here...

your mother wants to be that "caring" person she's supposed to be. as a result, she invades too much of your private space. then, she also wants to "help" you with your school work. she ends up being demanding. one more thing, she calls her wild mood-swings and yelling as "lessons."
i truly love my mother but she makes it so hard to understand. yelling every single day, and telling me that i'm not good enough... that doesn't seem like a good mom. i mean.. just the other day, i told her that my school's mock trial team didn't advance to the state finals. guess what she said. "you're team is just not good enough. accept it." she could have said something more comforting..

aside from my aggravating mother, i have these two elder sisters. aside from being older than me, nothing else makes them what they are. i mean.. they depend on me for so many things. both of them act so immaturely, it's not funny. one of them always asks for help with her homework and term papers. while i stay at home and do it for her, she goes out and party with her boyfriend. when i do tell her to do her work by herself, she counters me. "what kind of a sister are you?!?! why won't you help me!??!" that's what she'd say. and i'd try to explain that she has to be independent and learn things on her own. later, she'll tell me "you have to help me now!! i'll do my work next time!" but she never does... the other one is always acting like a child, i have to watch over her every second when i'm out with her. in some aspects, she's mature, i.e. holding a job. but other than that, her attitude is like a child. she throws tantrums easily. then she looks at cartoons all the time and tries to emmulate them. also, some of her actions are not proper. i try to correct her but she makes it impossible. she tells me, "i was born this way! there's nothing you can do..!"
i only have so much patience and endurance in this body. there comes a point when i just want to scream at them. but then, they're my older sisters, my kin.. i don't want to seem like i'm being mean..

so my question is...
what should i do?? should i be indifferent to my feelings or tell them? should i ignore them? or something...

tnx very much for taking the time to read this! ^_^

[noaccounthere]

For your mother. A good rounded discussion would help tell your mom we need to talk. Then set a time for both of you. So no one interrupts so be like Okay Ill talk from 10:00 to 10:20 and then afterwards you get 20 minutes.

I tried it and it works except on stuff when my mom is strict on some stuff. Where a formal discussion wont get anywhere. In that case I bring it up with dad. My dad usually shares the same views as me and he ends up talking to mom.

However, if mom and dad share same views. Then theres nothing left but to just take it in one ear and out the other. If they bug you in homework, then do homework and when they ask for help smile and say no im fine thank you. If they invade your privacy, well find ways so they cant, if you have your own computer put passwords or hide your files, if its not on the computer find a good place to put them in with a lock.

Sadfully I gotta do this since my parents are always up my case. I mean its nothing im hiding but its the fact their invading my privacy. One thing to remember moms will be moms dads will be dads parents will be parents.

Usually their right and we should put their viewpoint into consideration.

As for your sisters... Bring back the words to them... "What kind of sister treats me like a slave to do all your work while you get to go out. So what if youll do it next time, your not doing it this time! Why dont you do my work and I go out? Why is it always me doing your WORK! being your sister doesnt mean doing your work or your responsibilities."

Try that. Dont let the guilt trip get to you, because the guilt should be on them not you.