friends = frustration, do you agree?? Options

[always_n0vember]

So I'm almost 20. I've been out of high school for 2 years. The one thing I miss the most are the friends that I had. You think that you are going to spend the rest of your lives with these people, you expect them to be there when you need, but once you graduate you start to realize who the TRUE and REAL friends are... The frustrating thing is... is that my old friends call me to hang out with them... I'll hang out... but when its time for me to call them to hangout with me they are no where to be found... they cant answer their cell phones or anything, they cant even text me back... dang.. what is up with that?!? I guess I'm just pretty upset cuz I dont have a group of friends... I feel so alone... (other than having my man around) hmmmm....

any of you in the same boat as I am??!!?

[pinayinred]

hey... don't worry too much about it. we all go through stages like that. i'm 24 and went through the same thing back when i graduated. and surprise! i'm STILL going through changes like that with my friends. it's all part of that crappy thing we call, REALITY. but yeah, just thought this lil thing (below) might help you out....

"Quarterlife Crisis" by Alexandra Robbins

They call it the "quarter-life crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two but then get hot and scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you are.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.

You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you, or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One-night stands and random hookups start to look cheap, and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You wonder what in the hell is wrong with you.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!