loving a girl, just brokeup with my gf to wait... Options

[co0nster421]

hey im new to this forum. anyways i broke it off with my gf a few weeks ago n im jus feeling messed up. well to start off she's 16, and i jus turned 20. i really love her but i feel like the age difference is to0 much. i see her friends look at me and i know what they're thinking: "he's 20, all he wants is sex" anyway i've known her for a long time now and it's hard to deny that urge to... ya kno. so i broke it off before we ever had the chance to... i never wanted things to end this way. she has a bright future and i dont want to mess things up for her. guys can be total @$$holes when they get all pervy. made me realize that love and sex are two different things. she's going through alot at that age and i jus dont think im go0d enough for her. u shouldnt be in love at 16. u should still be having fun and enjoying that hs life. i still wana be a part of her life but im not sure how to talk to her without making her feel... well i need advice

[always_n0vember]

hey im new to this forum. anyways i broke it off with my gf a few weeks ago n im jus feeling messed up. well to start off she's 16, and i jus turned 20. i really love her but i feel like the age difference is to0 much. i see her friends look at me and i know what they're thinking: "he's 20, all he wants is sex" anyway i've known her for a long time now and it's hard to deny that urge to... ya kno. so i broke it off before we ever had the chance to... i never wanted things to end this way. she has a bright future and i dont want to mess things up for her. guys can be total @$$holes when they get all pervy. made me realize that love and sex are two different things. she's going through alot at that age and i jus dont think im go0d enough for her. u shouldnt be in love at 16. u should still be having fun and enjoying that hs life. i still wana be a part of her life but im not sure how to talk to her without making her feel... well i need advice

Well first off, I don't think that her being 16 and you being 20 matters. I was 16 when I met my 20 year old boyfriend and we are still together. Yes sex is part of a growing relationship, even though you have the urge you have to tell her that, that isnt what you want. You should communicate with her and let her know that even though you are ready, you are willing to wait.. because you love her.

About her future... you wont force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. Like my boyfriend and I... I was going into my senior year of high school which meant that I had to apply to colleges.. At first I wanted to go away to school but I chose to stay in town. Not only because of him but for myself. I still go to college, I attend a State University and I work. We have a wonderful relationship..

Communication is the key to everything.. let her know what is on your mind.. otherwise she will never know your true feelings for her. Even though expressing your feelings toward her about your relationship, sex and future is going to be extremely difficult.. it will make you feel better in the end... i hopeed that helped!!