I can't stop thinking about him, I should stop.. Options

[islandkiss]

a little over a month ago my bf broke up with me. we've been going out for a yr.. he was my first bf and stuff.. ever since the break up we decided to stay friends. everything to me just feels so different. I never really stopped loving him..

I'll admit, our relationship wasn't all that great but it still felt wonderful..

What I don't understand is how could I still love him even though he hurt me.. so much? he's already moved on, I want to tell him how I feel.. but apart of me just doesn't want to let him know... I feel so lost and desperate. He hasn't been online in like.. forever.. I feel like calling him but I don't know what I'll say or how I'll react. I've been thinking about him.. constantly.. I don't know what to do.. I know I should let go.. but I just can't..

[Darkpekkle]

yeah, i know how you feel, i'm going through almost the same exact situation. but my ex doesn't want to be my friend- i can't stop thinking about him and almost everything reminds me of him. but don't worry, just hang out with friends and focus on other things. or, just call him and tell him how you feel.

^ my ex doesn't want to be my friend either. oh wells, what can you do really?

Anyways, just keep busy, get a part-time job, hang out with your friends, meet some new people, and eventually, you'll stop thinking about him. Of course, it won't happen with the snap of your fingers, but just give it some time (it's only been a month- i know, i know, it feels like forever =/).

it's sad to hear that he's already moved on, but it means that you should start moving on too. i know it's easier said than done... but try your best to NOT think of him... like... everytime you start thinking about him, just tell yourself to stop. and make yourself think about happier thoughts.

i don't know if you should call him or not, since that might make him feel a little awkward and guilty. right now, the friendship between you two is probably not as good as it was before you guys started dating (it's always awkward after the breakup... but will get better as time goes on). so one false move, and you could lose him forever. wait a while, and see if you feel any better. if you still feel bad, then i guess you could... talk to him about it. hope he understands and will try to help you and not push you away.