(Ex-) Boyfriend is gay. |
 Aug 12 2010, 08:04 AM
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 roosternamedingo.  Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926  |
Hey guys. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this. My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years told me he was gay two days ago. It was a very messy break up, and I'm extremely hurt. He came out to me as bisexual about 2 weeks ago and he said my support and acceptance has helped him accept himself and his sexuality. While I'm happy for him and glad that he got it out to someone, I feel horrible for myself. This person was my best friend and things were great with us. He told me he has always known that he was attracted to guys, and that he suppressed it. He also said he genuinely loved me and was genuinely attracted to me, but the attraction diminished slowly beginning about 4 months ago, when he started admitting his sexuality to himself.
I am utterly lost, and I know I need to get over him, but this just hurts so much. I feel like someone has punched a hole through me. Has anyone else gone through a similar situation? How did you cope? When does it stop feeling so empty? |
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Aug 12 2010, 12:18 PM
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 CheccMate Foo! Group: Member Posts: 839 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 487,531 |
Same thing happened to one of my friends. She told me it really hurt her because of the trust factor. Plus, she had a feeling he was seeing someone else and "thinks" after he was with the other guy, he came to her and had relations. I can only imagine how that would make her feel.
But anyways, I think what I want to say is, Nobody can escape who they really are. It really sucks that he made this transition while being with you, but I think he also needs support with his decision. It's not really a betrayal in my eyes. |
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Aug 12 2010, 01:00 PM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
QUOTE(MrStrife @ Aug 12 2010, 01:18 PM)  Same thing happened to one of my friends. She told me it really hurt her because of the trust factor. Plus, she had a feeling he was seeing someone else and "thinks" after he was with the other guy, he came to her and had relations. I can only imagine how that would make her feel. But anyways, I think what I want to say is, Nobody can escape who they really are. It really sucks that he made this transition while being with you, but I think he also needs support with his decision. It's not really a betrayal in my eyes. Yeah I don't see it as a betrayal. I'm kind of just paranoid I won't be okay again. I kind of just need someone to tell me I'll be fine >< |
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pinacoolada (Ex-) Boyfriend is gay. Aug 12 2010, 08:04 AM
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