Something different, ... maybe Options

[firechild]

Ok I have a serious dilemma, I can either:

• Change myself so that more guys respect me
• or stay the same so i still have my friends (majority are girls) and my girlfriend

Reason for 1: High school gym class is brutal for me, due to the fact that I'm small and scrawny and can't lift much over 120. Some of the jock guys have suggested i take weight training as a class (i luckily just got in), but now its even more awkward. I'm trying to be tougher, show less pain and emotion, and just be stronger and more of a guy.

Reason for 2: I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 6 months now. She completely despises the fact that I'm trying to 'man up' (her words, not mine). She likes the old (weak) person I was and despises the new person I'm becoming (in her words: a douchebag).

What am I supposed to do?

[firechild]

i don't really understand the other part about how you're trying to show no pain or emotion. what do you mean? do you just cry a lot and get hurt a lot now or something?

I'm usually just a empathetic person (among guys: HUGE disadvantage, but girls love it), but I'm tired of just getting all this shit from other guys in gym. I'm always called a f****t and cocksucker and shit like that. I just want to prove them that I can be a guy (and less of a weakling). The general hypermasculine stoic stereotype in our high school reigns supreme. The only sport that I'm good at (surfing) , I can't play where I live. And according to the male student body (Jock = Good, Girls love you, etc.) (Not in a sport= stupid, pathetic, ugly, gay, retarded, etc.) also (any emotion besides anger= extreme weakness, [no balls, ect.]) (anger= powerful, commands respect)

My girlfriend said to try out for the football team next year (sure... great idea 5' 11', 188 pound guy would be perfect for football).


Also, people at my school hate the fact that i hate wrestling, MMA; the only sports team i've ever respected is the Yankees. I don't watch sports, i don't play sports.