Something different, ... maybe Options

[firechild]

Ok I have a serious dilemma, I can either:

• Change myself so that more guys respect me
• or stay the same so i still have my friends (majority are girls) and my girlfriend

Reason for 1: High school gym class is brutal for me, due to the fact that I'm small and scrawny and can't lift much over 120. Some of the jock guys have suggested i take weight training as a class (i luckily just got in), but now its even more awkward. I'm trying to be tougher, show less pain and emotion, and just be stronger and more of a guy.

Reason for 2: I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 6 months now. She completely despises the fact that I'm trying to 'man up' (her words, not mine). She likes the old (weak) person I was and despises the new person I'm becoming (in her words: a douchebag).

What am I supposed to do?

[brooklyneast05]

damn what is wrong with your friends. your friends are going to leave you if you get in better shape? if you wanna weight lift then why not, it's good for you. i've never heard of a girlfriend who didn't like a guy in good shape and would rather him be weak and scrawny. she should get over it. just because you want to gain confidence physically, be able to relate more to other guys, etc doesn't mean you're a douchebag.


i don't really understand the other part about how you're trying to show no pain or emotion. what do you mean? do you just cry a lot and get hurt a lot now or something?


if lifting weights to "man up" is going to make you feel better about yourself then you should do it.