parents sacrifice? Options

[batman]

my mother's always telling my sister and i how we're such a burden and how if she hadn't had us, she'd be rich and buying clothes for herself and living in this huge ass house, but because of us, we've got to save money and her life sort of sucks now and all she does is work.

on some level, i do appreciate everything my mom has sacrificed for us. like, she does work full time to support us, she pays for my school tuition (for now, anyways, i'm planning to pay her back when i can) and gives me a house to live in and puts food on the table. but is it right for her to keep complaining and throwing her sacrifices in my face?

like... it's not my fault that she decided to have kids. shouldn't she have thought about all the sacrifices she'd have to make before she had us?

idk i'm getting really sick of living at home.

[mipadi]

My parents are awesome. I didn't appreciate it enough until I was out of college, but I don't think they ever played the "You're living under our roof so you have to appreciate us" card. They've always been supportive through thick and thin.

Also, I kind of agree with Steven. I think it's nice for parents to pay for college, since it's so expensive. Mine chipped in a bit, but I mostly paid my own tuition, since my parents don't have much money -- but they would've paid for it if they could've. I don't think parents have an obligation, though, so I think you have to appreciate it when parents do pay for college. But they shouldn't hold it against you, either.

My girlfriend's dad kind of does that. She's 22 but lives at home because she hasn't found a job yet (and not for want of trying). Sometimes her dad plays the "You live under my roof so you should do exactly what I say always, no questions asked" card and it drives her crazy.

[batman]

idk, i feel like if you're under 24 and you can't claim independence for financial aid then your parents have some obligation to help with tuition. i'm paying for as much tuition as i can out of my own money, but honestly i don't even make half of what my tuition costs and when i apply for financial aid, i'm eligible for absolutely nothing because my parents are considered fully able to cover tuition costs. on top of that, i didn't even qualify for a loan (or the bank just never got back to me, idk) probably because i've never had a credit card and have zero credit or whatever, so i'm pretty much riding on my parents' loan for school.

i know it's sort of a case-by-case basis, depending on where you go, what your income is, and how your parents are. in my particular case, my parents have been the ones pushing me to be an ivy leaguer my entire life, knowing how expensive a "brand name" school is. i would've been perfectly fine going to a state school. it would be one thing if i just sat around doing nothing all day but i do work full-time and have been looking for more and more jobs to take on to help out with tuition. i'm no longer spending money and i'm practically selling everything i own to help out with the money issue.

like, i'm not saying parents should pay for everything. most people over the age of 18 can feed and clothe themselves, but big-money issues such as tuition and housing seem to be something parents should be willing to help out with.