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brooklyneast05
post May 16 2010, 01:53 PM
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what are your views on marriage? do you want to get married? do you think it's an outdated concept? why do you believe that marriages tend to fail so miserably nowadays?



i have a mix of views about marriage. i'm engaged so i obviously believe in marriage. i look forward to it and feel comfortable committing to someone for the rest of my life. i don't think marriage is for everyone though. actually i don't even think it's for most people. i think probably 80% of people would be better off not being married.
 
 
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post May 16 2010, 02:29 PM
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QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ May 16 2010, 01:53 PM) *
what are your views on marriage? do you want to get married? do you think it's an outdated concept? why do you believe that marriages tend to fail so miserably nowadays?
i have a mix of views about marriage. i'm engaged so i obviously believe in marriage. i look forward to it and feel comfortable committing to someone for the rest of my life. i don't think marriage is for everyone though. actually i don't even think it's for most people. i think probably 80% of people would be better off not being married.

I think marriage is a psychologically forced bond between two people. Once they decide to get married, it's (I would think) obvious that they're very much into each other. If they get into a fight when they're not married, they might go their separate ways and say "this isn't working." Take the same exact couple / circumstance, but married. They get into the fight but due to the fact that they're married, they'll more likely try to work it out. They'll try to resolve things and remain together and in the long run, or even short run, it'll have paid off that they're married.

I think it's outdated from a religious standpoint. I don't think, despite the historical religious importance, that it should be a thing that has to be religious. For instance, gay marriage is shunned due to religion. I think that view of marriage is extremely outdated and with today's intercultural melding, we can't expect anything to remain strictly religious.
 
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post May 17 2010, 10:08 AM
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QUOTE(serotonin @ May 16 2010, 02:29 PM) *
I think marriage is a psychologically forced bond between two people. Once they decide to get married, it's (I would think) obvious that they're very much into each other. If they get into a fight when they're not married, they might go their separate ways and say "this isn't working." Take the same exact couple / circumstance, but married. They get into the fight but due to the fact that they're married, they'll more likely try to work it out. They'll try to resolve things and remain together and in the long run, or even short run, it'll have paid off that they're married.

I think it's outdated from a religious standpoint. I don't think, despite the historical religious importance, that it should be a thing that has to be religious. For instance, gay marriage is shunned due to religion. I think that view of marriage is extremely outdated and with today's intercultural melding, we can't expect anything to remain strictly religious.

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brooklyneast05   marriage beliefs?   May 16 2010, 01:53 PM
Uso   Now a days I totally agree with you I think peopl...   May 16 2010, 02:01 PM
serotonin   QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ May 16 2010, 01:53...   May 16 2010, 02:29 PM
serotonin   QUOTE(serotonin @ May 16 2010, 02:29 PM) ...   May 17 2010, 10:08 AM
brooklyneast05   yeah i think people get married way way too fast a...   May 16 2010, 03:20 PM
Uso   Especially in a relationship I think you need to l...   May 16 2010, 03:30 PM
brooklyneast05   i always figured living with someone before marria...   May 16 2010, 03:32 PM
Uso   REally? I would think the opposite I would live w...   May 16 2010, 03:38 PM
Tomates   Now i'm curious JC. Have you ever seen the sho...   May 16 2010, 03:56 PM
brooklyneast05   nope   May 16 2010, 03:57 PM
Tomates   Well...to sum it up there's at least one perso...   May 16 2010, 03:58 PM
brooklyneast05   well regardless of not seeing it, i think 99% of t...   May 16 2010, 04:02 PM
Uso   agreed   May 16 2010, 04:04 PM
misoshiru   i believe in legalising gay marriage. but i don...   May 16 2010, 08:36 PM
Uso   What if your significant other wanted you to get m...   May 16 2010, 08:50 PM
misoshiru   QUOTE(Uso @ May 16 2010, 09:50 PM) What i...   May 16 2010, 10:49 PM
Uso   QUOTE(misoshiru @ May 16 2010, 11:49 PM) ...   May 17 2010, 11:22 AM
spambot   Do i believe in marriage? Sure. Regardless of how ...   May 16 2010, 09:05 PM
Uso   Young marriage is so cliche cause it never works. ...   May 16 2010, 09:10 PM
Cum   marriage works for some. others it ends up a disa...   May 16 2010, 09:12 PM
zachyRAWR   Well, I believe that marriage in a religious sense...   May 16 2010, 09:21 PM
kryogenix   I think most of you are misplacing your criticism....   May 16 2010, 11:11 PM
ButtsexV2   Marriage is the most useless thing with any legall...   May 16 2010, 10:17 PM
tokyo-rose   I'm not sure I'd want to get married if it...   May 16 2010, 11:09 PM
synapse   I don't think that it is pointless. I do think...   May 17 2010, 12:39 AM
spambot   As far as gay marriage goes I think the church sh...   May 17 2010, 01:16 AM
brooklyneast05   my wanting to get married has nothing to do with ...   May 17 2010, 10:03 AM
futura   QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ May 16 2010, 11:53...   May 17 2010, 09:58 PM
Sandraaa   I'm currently engaged but I don't know how...   May 21 2010, 02:04 AM
Uso   /\ *hug* Idk my mum says she doesn't ...   May 21 2010, 09:05 PM


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