marriage beliefs? Options

[brooklyneast05]

what are your views on marriage? do you want to get married? do you think it's an outdated concept? why do you believe that marriages tend to fail so miserably nowadays?



i have a mix of views about marriage. i'm engaged so i obviously believe in marriage. i look forward to it and feel comfortable committing to someone for the rest of my life. i don't think marriage is for everyone though. actually i don't even think it's for most people. i think probably 80% of people would be better off not being married.

[brooklyneast05]

my wanting to get married has nothing to do with "needing someone to tell me that i love" my girlfriend. i want it more as an extra show of commitment. i want to differentiate between just being boyfriend and girlfriend, because it's a different thing to me. i think of bf/gf being a semi temporary thing where as steven said, the fix to problems is the option to break up. i don't want her, or myself, to feel like that's an option really.

i suppose divorce is the same thing as breaking up nowadays and it's almost as easy. for myself personally though i don't really believe in divorce. i don't plan to ever do it (not that people really plan to do that but you know). i don't want either of us to feel like that's an option. we're stuck together so we might as well work it out and find a way to be happy cause i'm sure as hell not agreeing to divorce. maybe if i was around divorce more then i would understand how it's commonplace. there isn't divorce in my family or even close family really though so it's sorta like a foreign concept in a way.