marriage beliefs? Options

[brooklyneast05]

what are your views on marriage? do you want to get married? do you think it's an outdated concept? why do you believe that marriages tend to fail so miserably nowadays?



i have a mix of views about marriage. i'm engaged so i obviously believe in marriage. i look forward to it and feel comfortable committing to someone for the rest of my life. i don't think marriage is for everyone though. actually i don't even think it's for most people. i think probably 80% of people would be better off not being married.

[Firiath]

Well, I believe that marriage in a religious sense is pointless. I may be raised Catholic, but the pressures and stigma they put on marriage is just dumb - and they're selective over what makes a good marriage. I mean, you don't see the Catholic church publicly condemning 24hour marriages but you see millions of protests that they have over gay marriage, even if the people love each other.
In the case of law, I think that it's a very useful thing to have - allowing people to be legally married allows them to have special privileges I think they need to help start a family. It lets them provide for themselves under the strain of a lot of things. You might not need a slip of paper to say that you love someone, but it helps prove you 'love' them under law and can save your ass in a lot of cases. I mean, there was this case of a man who had separated from his wife (but not legally divorced) and was living with his lover. When the man died, the lover didn't get any of the insurance money EVEN if she was the person the man put down as the person receiving the money - they gave it to his wife because she was legally the person who should get it.

[kryogenix]

I think most of you are misplacing your criticism. I believe in marriage. I just don't have faith in most of humanity to make good on their wedding vows. There's nothing wrong with getting married young. What's wrong is making a vow that you're not going to keep just cause you want to f*ck somebody.

I do not support legal marriage, whether for homosexuals or heterosexuals.

I believe marriage is for two consenting non castrated human beings of opposite gender who have passed the age of puberty, are not closely related, and are not bound by a previous marriage or Holy Orders. I do not believe in gay marriage, polygamy, divorce, or remarriage while your married spouse is still alive.

My beliefs in depth:
http://www.scborromeo.org/ccc/p2s2c3a7.htm

Or if you're not interested in reading all of that, wikipedia has a passable summary:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholic_marr...mental_marriage

They're selective over what makes a good marriage. I mean, you don't see the Catholic church publicly condemning 24hour marriages but you see millions of protests that they have over gay marriage, even if the people love each other.

That's retarded logic. I don't see you publicly condemning a lot of horrible things, but it doesn't mean you condone them over others.

The Catholic Church is not selective over what makes a good marriage. You say you were raised Catholic, so refer the link to the Catechism I posted above (or the wikipedia link). I think you'll find She makes Her teaching abundantly clear there.