How do you tell someone you love them?, Because I really don't know how ... Options

[ichiban]

Okay there is this one guy, John, he is two grades older than me, and I want him to know I like him, but I don't know how to say it. If I tell him straight up, he's either going to laugh or feel sorry for me because well, I would only tell a person I like them straight up if i have impressions he likes me too .. but JOhn hasn't shown any impressions he likes me ... he's my friend and such .. but .. I don't know whether I should tell him or not. And if I should, HOW??

[Baptismapyros]

Alright. Here’s my 2 cents on this. Two years is a HUGE difference when you’re in high school. Each year you change, and that amount of change is an immeasurable difference. What you expect out of a relationship is completely different than what it was two years ago. A seventeen year old, has a completely different concept of a relationship than a fifteen year old. It is true that age differences become less important when you people finally reach college and your personalities begin to solidify. That’s when a two to three year plus difference is acceptable, because your identity as a whole stops changing. But in grade school, my answer is hecks no. If you’re in high school, imagine yourself dating someone in middle school. As a college freshman, I refuse to date anyone in high school (even high school upperclassmen), because life experiences in college has created an extremely large gap that can’t be simply bridged easily.

You being younger than your love interest, this relationship has a great potential of harming you. He is at a different stage in life than you are. His concerns do not and will not match yours. Should you attempt to conform to his, you will cease to grow as a person and that’s one of the worst things he could do to you. As long as you date him, you will lose time in which you can change yourself into the person that you wish to become. Basically, all I’m saying is that you are pursuing a relationship would stunt the growth of your personality because you will consistently give up opportunities of growth in favor of conforming to an ideal in your head of the girlfriend that he wants. If he dates you, I can safely say that he does not care about you if he does not consider the age gap.

My recommendation is for you to date someone your own age, someone that you can grow with. That’s an aspect of a relationship that’s important at any age, however in high school age differences of more than a year make that aspect nearly impossible. Another thing. Don’t be too quick to say that you love someone. Bahhh I’m too lazy to explain why. Take care.