College+Long term relationship, I could use advice |
College+Long term relationship, I could use advice |
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So college is right around the corner for me-ish (Aug 20th)
And some of you know that I do have a boyfriend, and he will also be attending College this year but he is going to a different college. So here is my dilema, and a little bit of a backroung of me and Daniel I've known him for 8 years, and we have been best friends for 8 years, we started dating summer of senior year and we literally surprisingly complete eachother (been dating 7 months) And we both really think we will be together for a long time, like come on a kid that will play with nerf guns with me is super awesome! So back to the college situation We're neighbours currently and like 30 seconds away from eachother but now wereliterally going to be on the opposite sides of Michigan from eachother basically 5-8 hours away from eachother He also Might be going to a private college which means all his breaks are different from mine So even seeing eachother will be a lot trickier if he goes to a private college So overall, especially this being college, what is the best way to keep a long distance relationship since I'm obviously going to be new with this? Cause I really want to sty with him Advice? Sorry if this is very lengthy |
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![]() I'm Jc ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 ![]() |
it will probably be hard if not halfway impossible. people change like crazy in college. there is no way to predict how someone will be in college because it's a whole new environment.
my girlfriend and i couldn't make it smoothly at first and we weren't separated by distance. we were friends and together a lot longer than you and your dude too. on the flip side after a rough patch we got back together and are fine...but then again we don't have to mess with distance. point is it's going to take a ton of work and a ton of understanding between both of you. a ton. also i think 99% of couples in that position aren't willing to give each other real space, and if you are going to try to have a relationship on a leash while you are hours apart it's never going to work. imo you should set up really slack rules, and be prepared to cope with not having much control over your significant other. if you can't shrug off little issues then probably it won't work. |
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