how to be an independent person? Options

[batman]

How do you do it? I've been dependent on my parents for so long, I don't even know where to begin. Like even now, I go to school away from my parents, but they pay for my tuition which includes housing. The job I have is really only supplemental money and is not enough to, say, pay for all the shit I need (or think I need) i.e. monthly phone bill, internet, rent (when I eventually move out of the dorms), car/travel, etc.

The reason I'm asking is because the "future" for me is about a year away. I've never worried about it before because everything was set in stone... college --> med school --> etc. And if I followed that path, my parents would carry me along because it's the path they approve of. But I know that next year when I DONT apply to med school (because it is suddenly clear to me that I have no interest in science at all and tbh don't want to be a doctor) things are gonna start getting tough.

And I'm super scared/freaked out/not sure what to do.

[brooklyneast05]

i don't think you should go to med school if you have zero interest. it's too much of a commitment and too expensive to take lightly. if you don't want to do anything with it afterward then it's really a waste of time and money. that's four (or more) years you could have used to get your footing in another area that you really want to be working in. you told me on tumblr about how you'd rather write, or be an artist, or continue music but you don't have a portfolio. i don't think that should be that big a factor in your decision. you can build a portfolio. you might be a step behind others, but the thought of working hard and catching up is (imo) much more tolerable when it's something you really want.

i think it's best to base your decision on what you think is going to make you the most satisfied. that's what i did when i switched from architecture to general art. (granted those two are a lot closer in general than science-->art, i wasn't near as far into it as you are when i switched, and i'm on scholarship so my parents weren't footing the bill) but for me i decided the best idea was to decide what i really wanted, and then worry about the rest later. it's sorta like a puzzle, you're not going to just be able to put the whole thing together perfectly all at once. you gotta start somewhere and then figure out how you can fit the rest of the pieces in right. i still haven't figured out exactly what i want to do. that was the kicker, because with architecture, everything was a lot more solid and i could count on knowing what i'd do and whether i'd be able to make a living. architecture for me was safer. science for you is safer. but at the end of the day the safeness of it just wasn't enough to out weigh anything for me. maybe i will end up going back to architecture in the end, but at least if i did that it would be for the right reasons. i wouldn't be wasting my time putting myself through an intensive program with no interest in the outcome.


just for the record, this is assuming you've wanted this for a while now. i think it's a terrible idea to defer med school if you just woke up one morning and decided you weren't interested in it and you've been thinking it for a couple weeks. you gotta feel pretty positive that it's not just a phase.

[iRapediCarly]

i don't think you should go to med school if you have zero interest. i like to touch myself when Lost is on too