Staying Friends After a Long Relationship & Bad Break Up ???, Opinions on Staying Friends? Options

[deteam]

How do you guys feel about staying friends after a long term relationship, that had a really bad break up ?

Should you still try to be friends....

Should you both just move on ?

Ill give examples of what happened in my situation a little later

Here's the Actual Situation:
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7 Year On/Off Relationship [Started at Age 12]
Grew Up Together
Was Each Others Best Friend/ Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Talked Marriage
Stuck With Each Other Through VERY Difficult Times

Break Up:
Caught Emotional Cheating for 3 months.
Wasn't Willing to Leave the Other Kid completely to work On Our Relationship
Wasn't Willing to Leave the Other Kid completely to work On Us Being Friends

Status Now:
Haven't Talked for 2 Months [prior to Christmas phone call]
She calls, I Ignore
She Wished Merry Christmas, and Called and that is the last we have talked.

Now She Sounds Like she really wants to talk/ be friendly again but what do you think?

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[brooklyneast05]

i don't think you should bother with the being friends thing right away. bad break ups leave a sour taste in both people's mouth and i don't think it's possible for them to overcome that right away. that's how i feel anyway. even in situations where you really truly want to keep that person around as a friend, it's a lot easier said than done. the better approach is to leave it alone and let the bad feelings fade some and try to pick it up later.


basically i think if it was a good relationship and you like that person, you should stay friends, but i don't think the way to go about that is forcing it. you should move on first, and then worry about the friendship later.