Problems with my girlfriend ! HELP Options

[Alexash1367]

Okay here is the background to my relationship. Me and my GF have been going out for the past eight months. we started talking as friends and then one thing led to another and we got into a relationship! well here is the thing i never asked her out! don't get me wrong i wanted to ask her out but after we had slept together she assumed we were going out ! and the way i found out we were going out was the fact that later after we had slept together, i told her hey i wanna take this to the next level and she said wut do u mean i said u know actually going out and she fliped! lol saying oh we r! " i don't sleep With people i don't go out with. Anyways from the get go i was close with her and pretty much told her everything i was stright forward but she never got close to me. meaning she never asked for my help or never said any kind of stories about herslef. she kind of had a wall up. oh let me add this we live 80 miles away from each other.she didn't introduce me to her group of friends until like 3 months ago and she even told that me that usually she doesn't get her bfs involved with her friends. and i was one of the few that got involved

anyways here are my problems

i feel like she is not into me. the reason being she is never there for me if i have a problem like she doesn't show interest in talking to me or trying to help me with anything.

it's bothering me the fact that i can't get too close to her like i'm not use to not getting attention from my gf's and my relationship is kinda seriouse or at least she makes me feel that way. by seriouse i mean we have been talking about marriage.


sorry for writing so much!

[Sriracha]

First of all, don't force your way into her circle of friends. In my personal opinion, I actually think it's better not to be (too) involved with her friends. That way you can have fun with your own group of friends, and her as well.

Second of all, you can't force someone to open up to you. They will when they feel ready and trust you. I'm not saying she doesn't trust you at all, perhaps she doesn't trust you enough to tell you her secrets, or perhaps she had prior trust issues so it's hard for her to open up.

Third, if you feel like she isn't there for you, you need to talk to her about it. In a respectful way, however. Communication is one of the most vital aspect of a relationship, and so is being there for each other.