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How do you get rid of a stalker?
Fat2death
post Sep 28 2009, 01:04 PM
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I met this guy a week ago, and we have been having loooong conversations over the phone. I just realized I dont like him as more than a friend. After 3 days he claimed he loved me. blink.gif Also he is too playful and childish. I told him that I wasnt into him anymore, and I would just see him around. I noticed that he started to hang out in places where I go, and I have never seen him there EVER until we started to talk. He wont stop calling me. Its 1pm my time, and checking my CID, he's already called 19 times, and left 13 messages. He keeps saying he wont stop calling until I talk to him, but when I did speak to him, he just tried to convince me I was making a mistake. HE still keeps calling!!!!

Ok, so Im thinking my next step is restraining order.
 
 
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post Sep 30 2009, 05:31 AM
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QUOTE(Fat2death @ Sep 28 2009, 02:04 PM) *
I met this guy a week ago, and we have been having loooong conversations over the phone. I just realized I dont like him as more than a friend.

I'm not taking his side cause that stalking shit is pretty wack, I agree, but you played an active roll into becoming a victim of his annoyance. You're talking to the guy for 'so long' over the phone, giving the guy that needed confidence, and then you 'JUST' realize, hey I don't like him oh well la la la la la, and then you expect things to go back to normal.

Imagine it from your side:

You're talking to a guy. This dude is like the most handsome dude ever to you and you're so passionate about him. You can't believe he's even giving you the time of day and things are going so well. All of a sudden, he pulls a 'Oh I don't like you, kthxbye' on you. You'd feel a little like, whoa wtf, what just happened right? And most likely you'd still want to talk to him and stuff. The receiving end of these things can't just turn it on and off like that. They feel inadequate, like, why is this happening? Somethings not right. I can still have this. I know I can. Reasoning goes out the window.

As for a restraining order, no you don't need that. First off, he hangs in your circle of friends right? That'll just mess everything and make things worse; it'll not make only him look bad, but yourself as well, because sooner or later they're going to get to the bottom of why this started and they're gonna tell you, well wtf why you talking to him on the phone like that if you didn't like him? I understand that this kid is telling you I love you, stalking you and stuff like that, but until this dude is really a threat, I mean a serious I'ma kill you bitch threat, I don't think any official would sign off on it anyway without sufficient evidence of danger.

Please don't take any offense to this. This is outside the box thinking. I think you should actually confront him. SERIOUSLY CONFRONT HIM. With a close friend near by. I'm not saying 3 feet away from you. Just in eyes distance cause the conversation between you and him is personal. You need to apologize to him for making him think that he actually had a chance. Now you may not feel like you don't need to apologize cause it isn't your fault, but you shouldn't have been talking to him on the phone like that to begin with if you were just going to flip the switch on him like that. When you do apologize to him, you need to tell him that you are SINCERELY asking him to back off and that he is scaring you, enough that you thought of filing a restraining order.

Alright, I'm done my bad for the essay. Just saying. And I had some Guarana so I'm bouncing off the walls. Papa bear is done giving words of wisdom yall. Goodnight.
 
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post Sep 30 2009, 08:12 AM
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QUOTE( @ Sep 30 2009, 05:31 AM) *
I'm not taking his side cause that stalking shit is pretty wack, I agree, but you played an active roll into becoming a victim of his annoyance. You're talking to the guy for 'so long' over the phone, giving the guy that needed confidence, and then you 'JUST' realize, hey I don't like him oh well la la la la la, and then you expect things to go back to normal.

Imagine it from your side:

You're talking to a guy. This dude is like the most handsome dude ever to you and you're so passionate about him. You can't believe he's even giving you the time of day and things are going so well. All of a sudden, he pulls a 'Oh I don't like you, kthxbye' on you. You'd feel a little like, whoa wtf, what just happened right? And most likely you'd still want to talk to him and stuff. The receiving end of these things can't just turn it on and off like that. They feel inadequate, like, why is this happening? Somethings not right. I can still have this. I know I can. Reasoning goes out the window.

As for a restraining order, no you don't need that. First off, he hangs in your circle of friends right? That'll just mess everything and make things worse; it'll not make only him look bad, but yourself as well, because sooner or later they're going to get to the bottom of why this started and they're gonna tell you, well wtf why you talking to him on the phone like that if you didn't like him? I understand that this kid is telling you I love you, stalking you and stuff like that, but until this dude is really a threat, I mean a serious I'ma kill you bitch threat, I don't think any official would sign off on it anyway without sufficient evidence of danger.

Please don't take any offense to this. This is outside the box thinking. I think you should actually confront him. SERIOUSLY CONFRONT HIM. With a close friend near by. I'm not saying 3 feet away from you. Just in eyes distance cause the conversation between you and him is personal. You need to apologize to him for making him think that he actually had a chance. Now you may not feel like you don't need to apologize cause it isn't your fault, but you shouldn't have been talking to him on the phone like that to begin with if you were just going to flip the switch on him like that. When you do apologize to him, you need to tell him that you are SINCERELY asking him to back off and that he is scaring you, enough that you thought of filing a restraining order.

Alright, I'm done my bad for the essay. Just saying. And I had some Guarana so I'm bouncing off the walls. Papa bear is done giving words of wisdom yall. Goodnight.


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Fat2death   How do you get rid of a stalker?   Sep 28 2009, 01:04 PM
jcp   you taking it to seriously. He'll stop botheri...   Sep 28 2009, 02:04 PM
Tramatize   talk to him, just because he isn't MORE than a...   Sep 28 2009, 02:25 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(Tramatize @ Sep 28 2009, 02:25 PM) ...   Sep 28 2009, 02:40 PM
Tramatize   QUOTE(Fat2death @ Sep 28 2009, 03:40 PM) ...   Sep 28 2009, 02:47 PM
karmakiller   Make it very clear to him that you're not inte...   Sep 28 2009, 03:43 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(karmakiller @ Sep 28 2009, 03:43 PM...   Sep 28 2009, 04:11 PM
Cristy   QUOTE(Fat2death @ Sep 28 2009, 05:11 PM) ...   Sep 28 2009, 05:43 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(Cristy @ Sep 28 2009, 05:43 PM) Cha...   Sep 28 2009, 06:01 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(Cristy @ Sep 28 2009, 05:43 PM) Cha...   Sep 29 2009, 03:31 PM
karmakiller   QUOTE(Fat2death @ Sep 29 2009, 03:31 PM) ...   Sep 29 2009, 04:08 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(karmakiller @ Sep 29 2009, 04:08 PM...   Sep 29 2009, 04:21 PM
transcendentalism   Kill him. He sounds like a child. Restraining ord...   Sep 28 2009, 07:00 PM
transcendentalism   ^ QUOTE(transcendentalism @ Sep 28 2009, 07...   Sep 30 2009, 06:43 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(transcendentalism @ Sep 30 2009, 06...   Sep 30 2009, 07:33 PM
jcp   now your not overeacting.   Sep 29 2009, 03:47 PM
Fat2death   QUOTE(jcp @ Sep 29 2009, 03:47 PM) now yo...   Sep 29 2009, 04:07 PM
IWontRapeYou   idk Most stalker scenarios end in a suicide/homici...   Sep 29 2009, 04:08 PM
paozuu   the more you reject, the more he wants to try. jus...   Sep 29 2009, 04:35 PM
colddesert   Ya, I had this guy who would call me, text me, sho...   Sep 29 2009, 11:24 PM
DoubleJ   YOU have a stalker?!   Sep 30 2009, 01:16 AM
fire   WHAT IF YOURE WRONG AND HE COMPLETES YOU?!???...   Sep 30 2009, 02:42 AM
colddesert   QUOTE(fire @ Sep 30 2009, 01:42 AM) WHAT ...   Sep 30 2009, 01:59 PM
Fat2death   These long conversations werent abut us. They were...   Sep 30 2009, 12:34 PM
Fat2death   Ok Instant... You got me. I left a few details out...   Sep 30 2009, 05:35 PM
IWontRapeYou   kill him   Sep 30 2009, 05:39 PM
IWontRapeYou   LOLOL great minds think a like eh?   Sep 30 2009, 07:10 PM
transcendentalism   RE: How do you get rid of a stalker?   Sep 30 2009, 07:11 PM


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