How do you get rid of a stalker? |
How do you get rid of a stalker? |
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I met this guy a week ago, and we have been having loooong conversations over the phone. I just realized I dont like him as more than a friend. After 3 days he claimed he loved me.
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I met this guy a week ago, and we have been having loooong conversations over the phone. I just realized I dont like him as more than a friend. I'm not taking his side cause that stalking shit is pretty wack, I agree, but you played an active roll into becoming a victim of his annoyance. You're talking to the guy for 'so long' over the phone, giving the guy that needed confidence, and then you 'JUST' realize, hey I don't like him oh well la la la la la, and then you expect things to go back to normal. Imagine it from your side: You're talking to a guy. This dude is like the most handsome dude ever to you and you're so passionate about him. You can't believe he's even giving you the time of day and things are going so well. All of a sudden, he pulls a 'Oh I don't like you, kthxbye' on you. You'd feel a little like, whoa wtf, what just happened right? And most likely you'd still want to talk to him and stuff. The receiving end of these things can't just turn it on and off like that. They feel inadequate, like, why is this happening? Somethings not right. I can still have this. I know I can. Reasoning goes out the window. As for a restraining order, no you don't need that. First off, he hangs in your circle of friends right? That'll just mess everything and make things worse; it'll not make only him look bad, but yourself as well, because sooner or later they're going to get to the bottom of why this started and they're gonna tell you, well wtf why you talking to him on the phone like that if you didn't like him? I understand that this kid is telling you I love you, stalking you and stuff like that, but until this dude is really a threat, I mean a serious I'ma kill you bitch threat, I don't think any official would sign off on it anyway without sufficient evidence of danger. Please don't take any offense to this. This is outside the box thinking. I think you should actually confront him. SERIOUSLY CONFRONT HIM. With a close friend near by. I'm not saying 3 feet away from you. Just in eyes distance cause the conversation between you and him is personal. You need to apologize to him for making him think that he actually had a chance. Now you may not feel like you don't need to apologize cause it isn't your fault, but you shouldn't have been talking to him on the phone like that to begin with if you were just going to flip the switch on him like that. When you do apologize to him, you need to tell him that you are SINCERELY asking him to back off and that he is scaring you, enough that you thought of filing a restraining order. Alright, I'm done my bad for the essay. Just saying. And I had some Guarana so I'm bouncing off the walls. Papa bear is done giving words of wisdom yall. Goodnight. |
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I'm not taking his side cause that stalking shit is pretty wack, I agree, but you played an active roll into becoming a victim of his annoyance. You're talking to the guy for 'so long' over the phone, giving the guy that needed confidence, and then you 'JUST' realize, hey I don't like him oh well la la la la la, and then you expect things to go back to normal. Imagine it from your side: You're talking to a guy. This dude is like the most handsome dude ever to you and you're so passionate about him. You can't believe he's even giving you the time of day and things are going so well. All of a sudden, he pulls a 'Oh I don't like you, kthxbye' on you. You'd feel a little like, whoa wtf, what just happened right? And most likely you'd still want to talk to him and stuff. The receiving end of these things can't just turn it on and off like that. They feel inadequate, like, why is this happening? Somethings not right. I can still have this. I know I can. Reasoning goes out the window. As for a restraining order, no you don't need that. First off, he hangs in your circle of friends right? That'll just mess everything and make things worse; it'll not make only him look bad, but yourself as well, because sooner or later they're going to get to the bottom of why this started and they're gonna tell you, well wtf why you talking to him on the phone like that if you didn't like him? I understand that this kid is telling you I love you, stalking you and stuff like that, but until this dude is really a threat, I mean a serious I'ma kill you bitch threat, I don't think any official would sign off on it anyway without sufficient evidence of danger. Please don't take any offense to this. This is outside the box thinking. I think you should actually confront him. SERIOUSLY CONFRONT HIM. With a close friend near by. I'm not saying 3 feet away from you. Just in eyes distance cause the conversation between you and him is personal. You need to apologize to him for making him think that he actually had a chance. Now you may not feel like you don't need to apologize cause it isn't your fault, but you shouldn't have been talking to him on the phone like that to begin with if you were just going to flip the switch on him like that. When you do apologize to him, you need to tell him that you are SINCERELY asking him to back off and that he is scaring you, enough that you thought of filing a restraining order. Alright, I'm done my bad for the essay. Just saying. And I had some Guarana so I'm bouncing off the walls. Papa bear is done giving words of wisdom yall. Goodnight. ![]() |
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