Would you date a girl with a kid?, o(-( Options

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I've come across at least 3 cases I can think of where I become really good friends with a girl. The attraction is there and everything, we both got feelings for each other, but when I find out she has a kid, I loose all interest immediately. The same for a girl who smokes too.

But yo, would you date a girl who has kids? Am I just being closed minded? Because I think I have good reasoning behind this.

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^being older matters though. if i'm 30 something and dating then it's more expected to have to deal with the kid thing with women in that age range. it's different than dating a 20/21 year old with a kid.

I completely understand. I was at an entirely different place, both mentally and emotionally in my early twenties. I didn't date seriously until my 30's and just had fun when my kid was younger. That and a mother (in my opinion) should be more focused on her kid, especially in their early years than worrying about dating. I also didn't want a guy near my kid because the maturity and commitment level just isn't there (typically) at that point.

KC, you're not being closed minded. You're being honest. That is so much better than playing along, only to break things off eventually because you're not ready for that type of commitment. You'd be doing yourself and the lady a huge favor by being completely upfront from the beginning.

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@original poster, do you think its the fact that you might hate kids? or just that she has a kid, but its not yours?
idk, personally i wouldnt want to be in a long relationship with a girl who has kids. if i were to have kids, i would like for us both to discover and feel that whole process for the first time together.

Nah, I don't hate kids. I think it stems from the fact that she has kids but their not mine. I think it is as you put it, if I were to have a child, I would want it to be with a girl with no kids so we both can feel the excitement of having a kid for the first time. If she already has a kid, it wont be as exciting for her as it is for me.

I completely understand. I was at an entirely different place, both mentally and emotionally in my early twenties. I didn't date seriously until my 30's and just had fun when my kid was younger. That and a mother (in my opinion) should be more focused on her kid, especially in their early years than worrying about dating. I also didn't want a guy near my kid because the maturity and commitment level just isn't there (typically) at that point.

KC, you're not being closed minded. You're being honest. That is so much better than playing along, only to break things off eventually because you're not ready for that type of commitment. You'd be doing yourself and the lady a huge favor by being completely upfront from the beginning.

That's true, I never thought of it that way. At least no one's time is being wasted.