Help! I love my boyfriend but Im falling for my bestfriend!, What to do?! Options

[SaturdayRiot]

Basically, ive been with my boyfriend David for half a year. And we've been great but the past two months have been rocky. Our phones calls are quick now but when I call him when im upset I talk to him, but he doesnt listen to my problems! He does but all he says is oh or that sucks and it gets me so mad cause I go to him for comfort and he doesnt give it and it really bugs and it seems like he dosnt care. I have to talk to my friend chris and he listens and helps me cause he knows exactly how I feel and im really confused. chris is my best friend and he listens and makes me laugh when im done crying and davids my boyfriend and all he does is just say that sucks when hes supposed to be doing what chris does and im still upset and crying. I dont wanna compare them but dont you think it should be the other way around. it makes me think so much cause I know chris likes me and he treats me really nice and treats me the way david used to in the begining and now between me and david its almost whatever, I had a three hour phone call with chris and we learned things about each other that we never though we would have in common, things we understand and certain things weve gone through. We feel the same about alot and that night I hung up I realized I was falling for him and I love my boyfriend. David and I only have a few things in common but chris and I have a lot. I feel like I greatly care for both of them, Chris has told me he isnt ready for a relationship before he knew I was starting to like him and with david i feel like I want to be with him because I love him...but I don't. And after spending alot of time talking to chris and less time talking to david, i have no idea whether I should end it (which i really dont want to) because Im really liking chris now, or keep it going while feeling bad. I want to be with both, but I have to pick one :/

Help?Suggestions? Advice!

[libertie]

I think you're expecting way too much from your boyfriend. If you're upset all the time, fix it. Don't expect him to every single time - chances are he has no idea where to even start, and you're putting a lot of pressure on him. Figure out why you're upset and then STOP, because if you're upset all the time then there's no way you can keep a relationship going.

If you're starting to have feelings for Chris, it's probably a good idea to stop talking to him for a while, because doing what you're doing is really dishonest to your current boyfriend. If you're gonna end things with your boyfriend, that's your choice, but until you do that you really shouldn't be spending SO MUCH time talking to your best friend - it's clouding your judgment and you need to think clearly without thinking "but I might be happier with this guy instead".

It's also probably a good idea to be open with your boyfriend about all this if you want to stay together.. You say you love him but you're not really acting like it. Tell him you've been having second thoughts about your relationship, and just try to talk to him about it - without pointing fingers or jumping down his throat. If you DO love him, then just for a moment try to put his feelings before your own and see if you can see things his way. Understanding each other is really important - it works both ways. There may be a reason he's not saying much when you guys talk on the phone. You'll never know if you don't talk to him about it rather than spilling all your problems to your guy friend instead.

The bottom line is that if you're starting to have feelings for someone else, that should set off a huge red flag. I have a lot of sympathy for your boyfriend right now. =\ Anyway, I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but I do think you need to realize that you might be part of the problem as well, you know?