what are you suppose to do when Options

[MoneyIsDaMotive]

when you look though your love's
myspace messages and you see stuff like
telling her friends she been going out
and shes so tired. and has cheated on you
before.but she tells me she hasnt. and been with
her son all night. and she promises.
tells me that she miss's me
her mom caught her phone off cause the bill was so high.
so we only talk 15mins a day, and around 9, if she calls.
she'll said she tired i need to go bed. and
maybe tellin her friends that to make herself look good???
and on myspace messages, guys asking can they pick her up
but she ignores them or make an accuse but i don't think she erases messages
she saves every message.....what do you think? has she been going out everynight?


mybad about not making full sentences.
i live in hawaii so
i talk pidgen. like "i go sleep"etc so its kinda hard to type perfect

[karmakiller]

^ I think this guy has a kid with her... or maybe I am thinking of someone else.

[MoneyIsDaMotive]

^ I think this guy has a kid with her... or maybe I am thinking of someone else.

YEA THATS THE DAMN PROBLEM

[karmakiller]

^ LOL, you make it sound he'd give his kid to Goodwill or somethin'.

YEA THATS THE DAMN PROBLEM

Here's some tough love: You had sex with her. When you decide to have sex you should know that even if you do use some form of protection there is always a chance of having a baby. The baby isn't the problem. The baby is innocent in this situation, so if you're thinking about cutting all your ties with her and your child you should think again.

With that said, if she's been messing around on you GET A PATERNITY TEST, because there is a chance it might not be yours. You don't want to support a child with your money and time if it is not yours (even if the kid is wonderful, you shouldn't have a legal obligation to him/her if it's not yours.)

If the kid is yours, then you need to be civil with her. You're attached to her for the rest of that child's life, and since that child hopefully won't leave Earth before you, that means the rest of your life, too. Don't cause unnecessary drama. Don't hold anything she does/did against the kid. If you and her aren't getting along very well, then you might want to end it before your relationship gets ugly, because that might cause problems when it comes to your baby. I'd hope that you'd rather have your child know both it's parents and for you and her to deal with each other when it comes to that child than try to force this relationship to work and subject your child to growing up in that kind of environment.