Dr. :santa: Options

[brooklyneast05]

well i had to make a new thread since TJ ruined my last one. we're starting over.

i've decided to be the self proclaimed relationship expert of createblog's relationship forum. if you need advice, just post your problem here and i will guide you through your trouble waters and relationship hurdles.






NOTICE: don't ask me about mr. compatibility. this thread isn't mr. compatibility. if you have a problem with mr. compatibility's production speed then go find someone else to be him. i'll do it when i want to and i won't when i don't.


this is Dr. , don't get the two confused

[libertie]

LOL. It's definitely my boyfriend, and I'm just feeling insecure in general. We've been dating for over six months and I'm still not really that sure he wants to be in this relationship or if he's just sticking around for my sake. Every once in a while he'll say something that just completely blows me away, but I can't stop feeling like he's not all that enthusiastic about this.. There are some things that happened with him this summer that I don't want to say too much about, but basically he almost broke up with me. It's tough to come back from something like that, most girls wouldn't stick around after what he said. I did, because I really felt like the problems he had were things I could do something about. But even though he acts like he's happy when we're together, it's hard to shake the feeling that for a while he WAS thinking that he'd be happier if he wasn't with me.

But all that aside, I'm working on getting past those particular insecurities. He tells me that if he didn't want to be with me he would say so. I believe him, it's just that we spent so much time together before without me having any idea that something was wrong, and THEN he told me that there was a problem. It's hard to say I want to come up one weekend and have him tell me that he would rather spend time alone, but I'm trying to be able to hear that without getting hurt because I DO understand the need to be alone sometimes.

Basically, I think I'm suffocating him and I want to be able to give him some air without going crazy MYSELF. Sitting around and constantly checking my phone waiting for him to call all the time is making me crazy, and it's certainly not helping.. I want to be unavailable to him sometimes, too, so I can stop feeling like I'm always the one who's missing him.