I hate when my parents fight Options

[emberfly]

My mother has talked to us (kids + husband) about a divorce since I was about 8 or so.

I just can't stand when they fight. It makes me feel so horrible. I can't stand my father 80% of the time, but I would just hate to lose him. I do not want a divorce.





I am writing this because my father was insulting my mother in front of her + us kids while we were trying to do a family project. It ended a few minutes ago. He was belittling her and just being totally awful.

I couldn't stand it.

Is there anything I can do? I do NOT want a divorce.

[emberfly]

I realize that this sounds selfish, but I just KNOW my mother would be happier staying together. The chances are extremely slim that she will find anyone to replace him (because she just won't be mentally ready and she's middle-aged........ dating works better for the younger crowd).

He definitely seems like he isn't interested in staying together. Honestly, it just seems like he feels like he HAS to. If us kids moved away and got our own families + they had a fight again, I think he would leave her.

My mother's parents got divorced and so did my father's parents. My grandfather was divorced twice. Knowing that, it would probably make it easier on him to do so.

[libertie]

I realize that this sounds selfish, but I just KNOW my mother would be happier staying together.

That sounds like a hunch.. =\ No one knows what she wants better than her, and if she says she wants a divorce then you really have no choice but to believe her. And if your dad really doesn't want to be with her, then how can you expect her to stay? I can't imagine the pain involved with loving someone who doesn't love me back enough to WANT to stick around. Staying out of obligation is a terrible thing.

Being "alone" or unmarried isn't always a bad thing, but if she wants to find someone, she will. Have faith, plenty of people still date past their 30s and 40s.