I hate when my parents fight Options

[emberfly]

My mother has talked to us (kids + husband) about a divorce since I was about 8 or so.

I just can't stand when they fight. It makes me feel so horrible. I can't stand my father 80% of the time, but I would just hate to lose him. I do not want a divorce.





I am writing this because my father was insulting my mother in front of her + us kids while we were trying to do a family project. It ended a few minutes ago. He was belittling her and just being totally awful.

I couldn't stand it.

Is there anything I can do? I do NOT want a divorce.

[emberfly]

I realize that this sounds selfish, but I just KNOW my mother would be happier staying together. The chances are extremely slim that she will find anyone to replace him (because she just won't be mentally ready and she's middle-aged........ dating works better for the younger crowd).

He definitely seems like he isn't interested in staying together. Honestly, it just seems like he feels like he HAS to. If us kids moved away and got our own families + they had a fight again, I think he would leave her.

My mother's parents got divorced and so did my father's parents. My grandfather was divorced twice. Knowing that, it would probably make it easier on him to do so.

[brooklyneast05]

I realize that this sounds selfish, but I just KNOW my mother would be happier staying together. The chances are extremely slim that she will find anyone to replace him (because she just won't be mentally ready and she's middle-aged........ dating works better for the younger crowd).

you really think your mother would be happier staying married and belittled than she would if she were alone without someone yelling at her?

[emberfly]

you really think your mother would be happier staying married and belittled than she would if she were alone without someone yelling at her?

I have no idea. I need to go talk t her.