Dr. :santa: Options

[brooklyneast05]

well i had to make a new thread since TJ ruined my last one. we're starting over.

i've decided to be the self proclaimed relationship expert of createblog's relationship forum. if you need advice, just post your problem here and i will guide you through your trouble waters and relationship hurdles.






NOTICE: don't ask me about mr. compatibility. this thread isn't mr. compatibility. if you have a problem with mr. compatibility's production speed then go find someone else to be him. i'll do it when i want to and i won't when i don't.


this is Dr. , don't get the two confused

[DoubleJ]

haha I did lmao!

Well here is the situation:
Let me start of by saying that I have the utmost respect for my friends. I think of some of them as blood. Well my boy is "messing" with this girl. They aren't a couple but they are I guess you can say a tad more than just friends? Well in any event over the past few days I have come to realize that I have feelings for this girl and she has admitted to me and to one of our friends that she has feelings for me too. What do I do?

[brooklyneast05]

haha I did lmao!

Well here is the situation:
Let me start of by saying that I have the utmost respect for my friends. I think of some of them as blood. Well my boy is "messing" with this girl. They aren't a couple but they are I guess you can say a tad more than just friends? Well in any event over the past few days I have come to realize that I have feelings for this girl and she has admitted to me and to one of our friends that she has feelings for me too. What do I do?

oh that's a sucky situation. i don't even know if there's an answer to ones like that.


i think you should be careful cause you're on dangerous territory here my . objective number one should be to figure out what they are. you might think you know, your friends might think they know, but really no one does besides the dude and this girl. which means there's almost no way around going through one of them to figure this out. i don't know your relationships with them. if you're really close to this dude then maybe you can straight up ask him what the deal is between him and this girl, how much he likes her. if that's not a good idea, then i would go through the girl since you already know she's on a similar page to you. she can let you know how much "more than friends" her and your friend are. although that can be awkward too so you might just get stuck...

maybe you'll luck out and find out that they aren't as tight as you thought. if you find out it doesn't look safe then i think you should take a step back and think more about it. you realized only over the last few days you had feelings for her. you don't wanna jump in and f*ck up good friendships just because you had a little crush on someone. it's easy to have intense feelings that seem like a big deal but then it quickly fades and you realize it wasn't that legit. also if he's just messing with her, he might be done messing with her before long and move on to the next one. but in the event he feels like she's more than a girl to play with, you have to figure out whether there is enough there between you two to risk upsetting him.

if you discover more and more than you really like her then it's sometimes worth going for. if you just wanna mess around with her too then i would just drop it if i were you and find someone else with less complications. you can only mess with a friends girl if you think something big time is gonna come out of it, like a real legit long lasting relationship. legit legit this is a bad situation to make a mistake in homie