Why doesn't he tell me? Options

[karmakiller]

I've been trying to figure this out, so someone give me some insight, please.

My brother and I are fairly close. We'll hang out sometimes and talk to each other a lot. For some reason he will date girls and not even tell me about it. The girl who I'm assuming was his first girlfriend got along with me and she'd come over to see my brother (he works at home, because he took over the family business, but doesn't live at home) and her and I would talk and watch TV. The last girlfriend he had he dated for almost a year before I knew that they were actually a couple... that went horrible. I told him she was bad news, but didn't say anything else. She was bad news, and she caused a lot of problems between my brother and my family.

Then, on Sunday he had to go to the hospital and Monday I went to visit him and some girl is sitting there eating lunch with him. It was awkward.
Me: "Who are you? ...Did you graduate with him?"
Her: *awkward giggle "Um... I'mmmm... his girlfriend"
Me: "Oh, I haven't even heard your name until today."
My brother's friend: "Yeah, I'm lucky I even know who you are."

Then she said she had to go. This morning I called my brother's room and she was the one who answered. I still felt like an ass about yesterday.

Why does he not want me to know if he's seeing someone? His friend told me it's because the girl just graduated high school this month (my brother's almost 23.) I guess I just get a little offended that all his friends know and I am clueless. I feel like he's ashamed of me, because the two previous girls he dated never even knew he had a sister. :(

[Teesa]

Me: "Oh, I haven't even heard your name until today."
My brother's friend: "Yeah, I'm lucky I even know who you are."

i know you didn't mean to be mean, but i would feel sad if someone said something like that to me.

but anyways, i'm really close to my brother too, but i remember him not telling me about his first girlfriend. i think it's because we had never really talked about relationships before and he didn't want to make me uncomfortable or something. but now he tells me more about his current relationship because we just talk a lot more with each other. and it's also easier for him to talk to other guys his own age about it rather than a younger sister.

he is definitely not ashamed of you.

[karmakiller]

^ No, I haven't. I've actually helped him out a lot with stuff.

i know you didn't mean to be mean, but i would feel sad if someone said something like that to me.

but anyways, i'm really close to my brother too, but i remember him not telling me about his first girlfriend. i think it's because we had never really talked about relationships before and he didn't want to make me uncomfortable or something. but now he tells me more about his current relationship because we just talk a lot more with each other. and it's also easier for him to talk to other guys his own age about it rather than a younger sister.

he is definitely not ashamed of you.

I said that because, well, it's the truth. And I didn't want her to think that I knew who she was an was intentionally ignoring or something. I've casually asked him before if he's seeing anyone and he always says no. I would assume that it would bother his girlfriend that he was denying their relationship. It makes me look bad when people who I don't even know very well tell me he's seeing someone and I tell them that they are wrong.

I can't help but feel that he is ashamed of me because of the way he acts sometimes. Most of his friends don't even know that he has a little sister. I don't want to know details about his relationships or anything, I just want to know if he's seeing someone and what her name is.