Asians.. Blacks.. the gap??, No offense.. Options

[dpl313]

Before I start let it be said that I'm not trying to be offensive.

For the Asian girls/women on this site has a guy ever called you stuck up or misleading? Just wondering, because I was having this conversation with my cousin, and we talked about characteristics of women of different races. He was saying how Asian women tend to be a little harder to get(relationship wise) and stuck up.

I thought about this for a bit, and I looked back on every experience I've had talking to an Asian girl/woman. Ironically some of the same patterns have happened in most cases. Like at times it'll end up to be they'll be into me slighty. Then it's always some bs excuse as to why they don't want to go any further. It never fails.. The ones I recall most are.. "my parents.. you fill in the blank." Then the one where they go with the other guy who treats them like crap to try to change them.

As my cousin said this.. it really had me thinking would an Asian male/female date a Black male/female, or is it something that wouldn't happen?

I dunno maybe it's because I'm Black, and in my area you don't see Asians and Blacks together. Even when I moved to a few other states I didn't see it either. Then I was thinking how Black people do get stereotyped sometimes by some members of the Asian culture. I had this one incident that sticks out. I was at this Chinese Buffet restaurant, and this Asian teenager kept staring at me like.. What are you doing here?? I guess I'm losing the theme of my point. I'm not looking to be bashed, nor am I looking for someone to say... You're a nice guy.. poor you, etc. I just want the truth.

[Tung]

I dunno, hard to explain this, but Asian women are definitely higher than Black women in the interracial dating scene. Asian men though? They are on the bottom of this hierarchy. It's not just one racial hierarchy, but it's two sets which is gender based.

If you look at the male's racial hierarchy, I would say it would go in terms of

1. White
2. Black
3. Latino
4. Asian

while for females

1. White
2. Asian
3. Latino
4. Black

but that's just my opinion and what most of my 400 of so classmates came to an agreement in my Human Sexuality class.

[brooklyneast05]

@ the racial hierarchy

i don't understand what it's based off of though or who's perspective this is based off? i mean is it supposed to be what men and women in general prefer? i get that you're not saying this is the ranking for how every single person feels, but i don't even feel it reflects generally either.

i don't think it's possible to make a ranking even in a general sense for all males, because from my experience the ranking would usually change up from one race to another. does that make sense? white women might be #1 to white men, but i don't think white women are #1 to every male (even in general)

i duno, i can't figure out a good wording for what i'm saying. so, in the end i'm saying i don't agree with the ranking. personally, i don't think it can be ranked, period. but even if i was going to attempt to do something as silly as rank women by race, it wouldn't reflect that order anyway.

[Gigi]

@ the racial hierarchy

i don't understand what it's based off of though or who's perspective this is based off? i mean is it supposed to be what men and women in general prefer? i get that you're not saying this is the ranking for how every single person feels, but i don't even feel it reflects generally either.

i don't think it's possible to make a ranking even in a general sense for all males, because from my experience the ranking would usually change up from one race to another. does that make sense? white women might be #1 to white men, but i don't think white women are #1 to every male (even in general)

i duno, i can't figure out a good wording for what i'm saying. so, in the end i'm saying i don't agree with the ranking. personally, i don't think it can be ranked, period. but even if i was going to attempt to do something as silly as rank women by race, it wouldn't reflect that order anyway.

I completely agree with this. I think there is some sort of "racial hierarchy" that exists but it's totally different for each group of people. You can barely mush people together into a single racial group as it is, let alone as an all-encompassing group. Tung's hierarchy might be right, but for who? What kind of people? Surely it's not the same for each group. And if you're saying that's the "general" hierarchy, are we assuming that there are more white people and therefore the whole scale is tipped? It's all quite silly.

It's like saying that generally, everyone on this planet is good at math because Chinese people are good at math, and there are a lot of Chinese people on this planet. All (possibly) true, but relevant? Not really. It's much more useful to look at the different cultural influences - i.e. WHY certain types of people differ in math skills in this example, or for interracial dating, WHY certain types of groups like other types of groups - rather than clump everything into a single generality.