availability policy Options

[batman]

One of my friends thinks that anything's fair game as long as there are no kids involved, i.e. she could flirt with a married man so long as he doesn't have children with his wife.

Anyways, X and Y hang out a lot. A lot, a lot. Like all day and all night, a lot. Y has (or had,... it's pretty unclear) a girlfriend, but barely mentions her name. X just had an epiphany and realizes that she really, really likes Y. X doesn't really know what to do. M (me) tells her to bring up the girlfriend to see where they stand. X doesn't want to. X plans to just keep spending a lot of time with Y. M doesn't like that plan.

The way I figure... she already likes him so much and she doesn't really know where they stand. He has this girlfriend of about a year or so, but she says he's only mentioned her once in the entire time she's known him. The more time she spends with him not knowing how things are between them, the more she's gonna like him, right?

Meh. I'm telling her to back off a bit until she knows what's up, but my other friend's telling her to go for it.

What's your policy about dating/flirting/etc with someone who's technically 'unavailable?'

[fameONE]

It really depends. I'm no angel. I've been with a married woman before. There's a backstory, but the bottom line is; it happened. I tend not to pay any attention to women who are unavailable. The simple fact that they're physically or emotionally involved with someone else practically makes them invisible unless there is some sort of history there. I'm either cold and distant, not showing women the time of day (or talking to people in general), or I'm in a good mood that I become a lot smoother and charismatic than I realize. Without any advances, and if boundaries are respected, I suppose all is fair.