I'm [still] in love with my best friend, =( Options

[vietbabiiix3]

Have you ever been in love with your best friend? I think I'm in the worst case scenario right now, because he has a girlfriend of three years. We've been best friends for almost a year now... and let's say our friendship isn't "friendly" but to the point of boyfriend girlfriend... last year, he broke up with his girlfriend because he fell for me. Long story short, I didn't want to be the third person, because I had just gotten out of a relationship and he still admitted to loving his current girlfriend a lot. In the end, they got back together, and our friendship diminished...

I felt really heartbroken at one point because he chose her over me, but to some extent, I guess that's what I wanted to happen, so I never blamed him for anything. I guess it just sucks because I came after? But yeah, anyways, now he came back claiming... he still has feelings for me, and I didn't really know how to approach that. And... what's worse is that during the past month or so, he has cheated on his girlfriend with me... and I feel so guilty, yet he still claims he loves her. To everyone else and to myself, I probably look stupid saying that he is two timing the both of us, but we're best friends.

He makes it really confusing when we're close to the level of a romantic relationship where he tells me he loves me, to flat out rejecting me by saying "we're just friends, nothing more, nothing less" or going to call his girlfriend and ditching me. And it just sucks, because I can't avoid him no matter how much I want to. Because if I tell him how I feel, he always goes.. "but we're best friends." What I'm saying here is I don't want our friendship to end, I don't want to go back to that period where we didn't talk, because I care for him a lot. But I can't take it. It's just our chemistry - when we're together... it's not a friendship.


CB members - what should I do?

[LittleMissSunshi...]

wow, you went through the same thing i went through, and still trying to handle right now.. except i never did anything with my best friend. he's confused by the way you put it. i don't think you should have feelings for him. you have to give them up, or at least try to. having a best friend can last for years, rather than having a boyfriend for a long time. i know it's awkward and hard, you wish that his girlfriend was you. and you wish you had the same connection with him when you guys were talking and were best friends. it's hard, mine is going to go on for 4 years now.. and i still don't think i'm over my guy best friend. although were not best friends anymore, and he's still going out with this girl. it sucks, you seem like you lost everything or nothing feels the same. but you really have to let go of his feelings for him and like try to be a best friend rather than a girlfriend and best friend at the same time. what he's doing is wrong.. and as a best friend you should tell him what you and him are doing wrong.

decide if you want him as your best friend or as your boyfriend. you'll have somewhere to start, rather than having mixed emotions. it'll help (: trust me ^__^. goodluck!