What to do..., when your "fiance" doesnt want to marry you? Options

[Stuckie]

Some of you may know that Im in the army and in Iraq at the moment. But the issue is kinda... yeah. I knew this girl for about 3 years or so. We've been on again off again for all of it. Mostly because of my field of work (A soldier). But I got stationed in Germany around mid July last year, so every time we talked was over the internet. MySpace to be exact. After a few months of messaging and liquor, I proposed to her. Over MySpace. I know its not classy, but I was drunk. And she accepted. So we're still communicating over the internet, and a week before Valentine's Day, I order a bouqet of lilies and a box of chocolate to get sent to her house. The next day I called her to tell her I sent her a gift for Valentine's Day. She told me I shouldn't have done that, because her boyfriend would get upset. So I hang up the phone and try to gather what just happened. I guess its not so much a question, as its more me venting to other random people for feedback. Any comments?

[smash]

^ that's my .

the "i was drunk" excuse is ancient. if you know your limit you shouldn't go over it. if you don't then you don't need to be drinking. i agree with everyone else on the proposing via myspace. it's lame. 'nough said. i don't think she cared enough about you and your feelings to let you know she was getting into another relationship. she should've let you know when she first started catching feelings for the other guy. if she says she didn't wanna hurt your feelings that's really no excuse, in my opinion. i think it hurts more to be deceived and dumbed than it does when someone is honest from the beginning. i mean, look where you're at emotionally now. would you be feeling the same if she had told you she was falling for someone else before you bought the ring? i'm sure you would be heart broken but i doubt you would feel exactly the same. at least then you could respect her for being honest.