Haven't left my house in 8 months..? |
Haven't left my house in 8 months..? |
Feb 25 2009, 10:37 AM
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![]() don't call me shirley. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 193 Joined: Oct 2008 Member No: 689,028 |
I'm Agoraphobic, I've been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder since I was 10.
For the first 4 months in high school, people thought I was a mute. Yeah, i know. I'm very quiet. I wouldn't yell even if I was on fire. My mom was extremely a depressed person, so I think this was genetic. During elementary school, it was very hard. That's when the bullying began, in the 3rd grade. It hasn't stopped since I turned senior in high school. I graduated in June 2008, since July 1st, I haven't left my house. I start college in Fall 2009, I'm considering taking it online. I just can't be around people. I can't even breathe in a supermarket. My brother tried to take me Christmas shopping last December, & it was too much people, passing towards me, touching me, looking at me, I just started having slow panic attacks & ran into the car, & just bursted in tears. I can't live like this. I can't even get across a room full of people. I always have to wait for hours for them to leave, so I can get my bottled water in the vending machine. My dad thinks it's stupidity, not extreme shyness. So is there any advice anyone can give me? Should i go out, take it slow? Geez, I can't even do THAT, I always duck when a car passes by. |
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Feb 25 2009, 06:48 PM
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![]() DDR \\ I'm Dee :) ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
One step at a time. I have horrible anxiety, but trying to figure out how things will be in the coming years and weeks only make it worse. There's probably a lot of places that you don't like to go, so don't start out on a large scale. Find something that comforts you... or someone, like a family member. Let it (or the person) be a distraction for you when you go out. For starters, just think about why you're there and focus on that instead of the people. Some people might not like it that you're not talking to them, but don't worry about it. I think it would be good for you to be in a classroom setting at college rather than an online course. If you take courses online you're only giving into the anxiety of going out and talking to people instead of confronting it. College is a lot different than high school... if you're in class and feeling overwhelmed, step out for a couple of minutes. It'd probably be a good idea to let your college know about this, because they will be able to better accommodate you.
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goth-nina Haven't left my house in 8 months..? Feb 25 2009, 10:37 AM
illmortal Gaze at the direction you're going and ignore ... Feb 25 2009, 10:44 AM
Melie have you spoken to a doctor about this? you might ... Feb 25 2009, 10:45 AM
9001 People in my school still think I'm a mute.
L... Feb 25 2009, 03:55 PM
jcp I was the opposite for a long time. I was very ins... Feb 25 2009, 04:18 PM
mipadi I think you first have to analyze why you scared. ... Feb 25 2009, 04:19 PM
Tomates Take small steps, I would try talking maybe on the... Feb 25 2009, 04:22 PM
MissUchiha Basically what Tomates said, start small. It's... Feb 25 2009, 04:48 PM
kryogenix QUOTE(MissUchiha @ Feb 25 2009, 03:48 PM)... Feb 25 2009, 06:09 PM
BOSS This is just my opinion, but im guessing exposure ... Feb 25 2009, 05:26 PM
ArjunaCapulong other posters brought up good points; I wanna say,... Feb 25 2009, 06:15 PM
kryogenix QUOTE(ArjunaCapulong @ Feb 25 2009, 05:15... Feb 25 2009, 06:17 PM
Tung You say this is genetic? No way. it's definite... Feb 25 2009, 06:16 PM
BOSS QUOTE(Tung @ Feb 25 2009, 03:16 PM) You s... Feb 26 2009, 12:24 AM
Melie ^lol Feb 25 2009, 06:39 PM
kimmytree I'm sorry you've had such a hard time deal... Mar 9 2009, 02:49 PM
iloo first of all, i must say you're doing very wel... Apr 12 2009, 02:13 PM![]() ![]() |