The Aftermath of Friends With Benefits Options

[MrStrife]

Yeah after replying to a topic similar yet different to my situation, I can't stop thinking about it and need to get it off my chest. No, honest, I'm not trying to steal anyone's thunder but I'm just suffering under the rain. I met a chick not too long ago and we agreed to the play the game, no strings attached. It was pretty good while it lasted and damnit, I still want some. But it ended sooner than I wanted because I sort of got attached and was thinking about being serious but it just led to fighting and her crying.

Now she has a new bf and I'm just supposed to be happy with that? Like after everything we been through, I'm just pushed to the side? Don't get me wrong, she is a good friend and I don't think I'm being one, but it's just getting harder and harder to be her friend. I get mad when I hear her doing things with him that I never did and when she chooses him over me. I don't think I'm jealous because of the fact that I didn't think a serious relationship between us would've ever worked out. I slept with another girl while I was sleeping with her and we didn't care. We argue a lot because I feel like giving up on our friendship because the situation just doesn't look like it's going to change.

I want her to be happy, but I'm apparently selfish I guess. What do you think is the best thing for me to do?

[imperfectionistx]

Now she has a new bf and I'm just supposed to be happy with that?

I want her to be happy, but I'm apparently selfish I guess. What do you think is the best thing for me to do?

You said you want her to be happy. So... yes.

Like after everything we been through, I'm just pushed to the side? Don't get me wrong, she is a good friend and I don't think I'm being one, but it's just getting harder and harder to be her friend.

I'd say just let it go. FWB (usually) never works out if you want it to be more, even more so now that she has moved on. If the friendship doesn't work, then again, just move on.

I get mad when I hear her doing things with him that I never did and when she chooses him over me. I don't think I'm jealous because of the fact that I didn't think a serious relationship between us would've ever worked out. I slept with another girl while I was sleeping with her and we didn't care. We argue a lot because I feel like giving up on our friendship because the situation just doesn't look like it's going to change.

It sounds like you're the one with the jealousy problem here. It's even worse if you were fighting with her w/o even being together. I think you need to remind yourself what FWB is all about.

So basically, if you want her to be happy, then you should move on too. If she's happy where she's at, then you shouldn't mess with her relationship just because you want the chance with her that you already had.