He cheated.., please help me out Options

[CO0KiE]

Hey, my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 15 months. (One year and three months in February) But just a few days ago (Sunday) I found out that he had been cheating on me FOR TEN MONTHS! TEN! Those months, those times that we spent together, everything, he was sharing. He was with another girl. I knew who she was. He told me that he didn't even like her back then. And I asked him again, why would he do that? Why? Especially if he wasn't even attracted to her? And he said he didn't know how he felt towards her, and he didn't want to tell me. He doesn't want me to leave. I think I'm giving him a second chance. But I don't trust him at all anymore. I just... my heart hurts so bad. I have never been betrayed like this before. By my very best friend... He keeps saying that heloves me, but... you don't do this to someone you love. he said that it just happened, and frankly, i don't think anything "just happens". He said he didn't even want it. FOR TEN MONTHS! HE DIDN'T WANT IT ?! BUT HE NEVER LEFT HER! That stupid bitch knew that I was his girlfriend too. They used to always hang out, and it made me unconfortable, so he said he'd stop hanging with her so much, but little did I know, he would still go and see her. We started going out November 2007, and on January 9, my birthday we told each other we love each other. He met her in December 2007. And in January, the beginning of the month or so, he started to see her as well. THAT'S NOT LOVE! YOU DON'T LOVE SOMEONE and hurt them like this. He tore my heart out... He knows he doesn't deserve a second chance, but he still wants one. He needs me. I need him. But I'm just afraid of the pain again. Nothing's the same anymore. I don't wear anything he ever got me. I don't want to see the pictures of the two of us. I'm so suspicious of him. I've lost my appetite. I haven't eaten at all for two days now. He said he doesn't know why he started to see her, he was "curious".

Someone please talk to me. It just doesn't make sense. He broken everything... He lied from the beginning...

[loveneko]

My boyfriend of two years cheated on me 3 months into our relationship and forgave him. He would hang out with girls and it drove me insane, but he couldnt avoid being around other girls. He cheated on me again 7 months into the relationship, but he didn't have sex with her. I forgave him. A year and a half into the relationship he kissed another girl, I forgave him for it. 23 months into the relationship, he told me that he had sex with another girl, and that he was so sorry and that he loved me and that he wouldn't do it again. I left him immediately.

If you're a forgiving person, give him another chance, it may've been a mistake, but you must realize that if he did it once, he'll probably do it again.
One very important thing is if you are having sex. If you are, you're putting yourself at risk for STDs and HIV if you stay with him. If you're not having sex with him, then it doesn't matter much and you can stay with him.

[CO0KiE]

My boyfriend of two years cheated on me 3 months into our relationship and forgave him. He would hang out with girls and it drove me insane, but he couldnt avoid being around other girls. He cheated on me again 7 months into the relationship, but he didn't have sex with her. I forgave him. A year and a half into the relationship he kissed another girl, I forgave him for it. 23 months into the relationship, he told me that he had sex with another girl, and that he was so sorry and that he loved me and that he wouldn't do it again. I left him immediately.

If you're a forgiving person, give him another chance, it may've been a mistake, but you must realize that if he did it once, he'll probably do it again.
One very important thing is if you are having sex. If you are, you're putting yourself at risk for STDs and HIV if you stay with him. If you're not having sex with him, then it doesn't matter much and you can stay with him.

How could you forgive him so many times? Was it hard? Did you guys.,... do the whole "break up and make up" thing, where the couple goes on break for a little bit then gets back together again?