Crossing the Line Options

[fameONE]

For the sake of boredom, conversation and an attempt to combine a bunch of different topics...

I understand that my approach to relationships and friendships may differ greatly from yours, maybe not. Either way, at what point does an opposite-gender friendship become a potential intimate relationship?

Is it worth it?

Your significant other is, ultimately, your best friend, so would such a friendship make for a better relationship?

Do you have one friend (of the opposie sex) in your life that you could see yourself with?

[towntown2]

I have three best guy friends, and I will talk about my relationships with them to make a point.

1. M -- we'd known each other as acquaintances for a while, but it wasn't until last year and this school year that we'd gotten very close with each other. While his relationship with a longtime girlfriend soured, I was there to listen and offer advice. When I needed to disclose a huge secret to someone, he was there to put his arm around me when I sobbed.
I had had some mild feelings for him while his relationship was falling apart, but I never acted on it because I figured they were just nothing. I figured right, because now we are like brother and sister. We get each other, and we're not afraid to be honest with each other.

2. J -- he and I have been best friends since my freshman year. We share everything together, and we're secure enough that we branch out to do things on our own. We call each other for support, for advice, to bitch. I have never had any feelings toward him whatsoever, and it works.

3. D -- this guy is amazing. He makes everybody around him feel at ease, and he is always in good humor. D always looks good, he takes care of himself. Bottom line is, he's very hot. I can definitely see myself having a relationship with him if the opportunity ever presents itself, because he and I look for the same things in the opposite sex. I believe that we would have a good relationship together, but as he is moving away tomorrow, I will only remain a best friend. I don't know if he's attracted to me, but I do know that he loves me [as a best friend, of course] and I love him, too.

It is absolutely possible for members of the opposite sex to maintain a platonic friendship without sexual tension.