He cheated.., please help me out Options

[CO0KiE]

Hey, my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 15 months. (One year and three months in February) But just a few days ago (Sunday) I found out that he had been cheating on me FOR TEN MONTHS! TEN! Those months, those times that we spent together, everything, he was sharing. He was with another girl. I knew who she was. He told me that he didn't even like her back then. And I asked him again, why would he do that? Why? Especially if he wasn't even attracted to her? And he said he didn't know how he felt towards her, and he didn't want to tell me. He doesn't want me to leave. I think I'm giving him a second chance. But I don't trust him at all anymore. I just... my heart hurts so bad. I have never been betrayed like this before. By my very best friend... He keeps saying that heloves me, but... you don't do this to someone you love. he said that it just happened, and frankly, i don't think anything "just happens". He said he didn't even want it. FOR TEN MONTHS! HE DIDN'T WANT IT ?! BUT HE NEVER LEFT HER! That stupid bitch knew that I was his girlfriend too. They used to always hang out, and it made me unconfortable, so he said he'd stop hanging with her so much, but little did I know, he would still go and see her. We started going out November 2007, and on January 9, my birthday we told each other we love each other. He met her in December 2007. And in January, the beginning of the month or so, he started to see her as well. THAT'S NOT LOVE! YOU DON'T LOVE SOMEONE and hurt them like this. He tore my heart out... He knows he doesn't deserve a second chance, but he still wants one. He needs me. I need him. But I'm just afraid of the pain again. Nothing's the same anymore. I don't wear anything he ever got me. I don't want to see the pictures of the two of us. I'm so suspicious of him. I've lost my appetite. I haven't eaten at all for two days now. He said he doesn't know why he started to see her, he was "curious".

Someone please talk to me. It just doesn't make sense. He broken everything... He lied from the beginning...

[espressive]

What if he is able to make it work for us? Don't you think it's alright to give it a try?

That's a question for you, not me. Do you think you will be alright and able to put in the effort to give him a second chance? Simply said, I don't know you guys. I don't know him like you do. But just be warned - being in love may sometimes cloud your better judgment. That's why I always talk to a trusted friend who knows me very well, so she can give me insight on a situation in another perspective - perhaps one that I haven't seen or don't want to see.

But if you wanna know... I don't think anything's impossible. I think each situation, each person, each relationship is different. It's hard to say what will come out of this. I just know that staying with him will not ease the pain you were referring to. Seeing him will remind you of his betrayal, how you can't trust him, how things aren't the same anymore. Just the same, if you were to break up with him, there's the pain of losing somebody you love.

[CO0KiE]

That's a question for you, not me. Do you think you will be alright and able to put in the effort to give him a second chance? Simply said, I don't know you guys. I don't know him like you do. But just be warned - being in love may sometimes cloud your better judgment. That's why I always talk to a trusted friend who knows me very well, so she can give me insight on a situation in another perspective - perhaps one that I haven't seen or don't want to see.

But if you wanna know... I don't think anything's impossible. I think each situation, each person, each relationship is different. It's hard to say what will come out of this. I just know that staying with him will not ease the pain you were referring to. Seeing him will remind you of his betrayal, how you can't trust him, how things aren't the same anymore. Just the same, if you were to break up with him, there's the pain of losing somebody you love.

I don't have any other best friend than him. My old best friend, the girl who knew almost everything about me, and was always there for me, used me only because she was dating my brother.. and then.. yeah. I mean.. the only person who is close to me NOW is my friend Nicole. (Same name as me), but I've only known her for, what? Three months?
And I already spoke with her. SHe thinks I should give him another chance. And if he hurts me again, "we'll kill the b*tch and put him in the hospital" <-- that's what she said..

I'm hoping that he can fix this..

I just can't let go of him. And I know this may be clouding my better judgement, but I think that he will change. I'm hoping he will...