He cheated.., please help me out Options

[CO0KiE]

Hey, my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 15 months. (One year and three months in February) But just a few days ago (Sunday) I found out that he had been cheating on me FOR TEN MONTHS! TEN! Those months, those times that we spent together, everything, he was sharing. He was with another girl. I knew who she was. He told me that he didn't even like her back then. And I asked him again, why would he do that? Why? Especially if he wasn't even attracted to her? And he said he didn't know how he felt towards her, and he didn't want to tell me. He doesn't want me to leave. I think I'm giving him a second chance. But I don't trust him at all anymore. I just... my heart hurts so bad. I have never been betrayed like this before. By my very best friend... He keeps saying that heloves me, but... you don't do this to someone you love. he said that it just happened, and frankly, i don't think anything "just happens". He said he didn't even want it. FOR TEN MONTHS! HE DIDN'T WANT IT ?! BUT HE NEVER LEFT HER! That stupid bitch knew that I was his girlfriend too. They used to always hang out, and it made me unconfortable, so he said he'd stop hanging with her so much, but little did I know, he would still go and see her. We started going out November 2007, and on January 9, my birthday we told each other we love each other. He met her in December 2007. And in January, the beginning of the month or so, he started to see her as well. THAT'S NOT LOVE! YOU DON'T LOVE SOMEONE and hurt them like this. He tore my heart out... He knows he doesn't deserve a second chance, but he still wants one. He needs me. I need him. But I'm just afraid of the pain again. Nothing's the same anymore. I don't wear anything he ever got me. I don't want to see the pictures of the two of us. I'm so suspicious of him. I've lost my appetite. I haven't eaten at all for two days now. He said he doesn't know why he started to see her, he was "curious".

Someone please talk to me. It just doesn't make sense. He broken everything... He lied from the beginning...

[Ekay]

Love is a very fickle word. 15 months is a long time and so is 10. That's basically 2/3's of your time together with him. If somebody lied to me at the beginning, I would've ended it already. I don't want to deal with something like that. I don't want it to take a huge mistake for my significant other to realize that I am the one that person wants to be with. That's too ridiculous to ask of anybody; male or female.

I'm pretty sure you answered your own question too. I mean if you are going to be suspicious of him all the time, is it really worth your stress and energy to constantly worry about who he's with or what he's doing? I honestly don't think that it's fair for you to stay in this relationship.

[CO0KiE]

Love is a very fickle word. 15 months is a long time and so is 10. That's basically 2/3's of your time together with him. If somebody lied to me at the beginning, I would've ended it already. I don't want to deal with something like that. I don't want it to take a huge mistake for my significant other to realize that I am the one that person wants to be with. That's too ridiculous to ask of anybody; male or female.

I'm pretty sure you answered your own question too. I mean if you are going to be suspicious of him all the time, is it really worth your stress and energy to constantly worry about who he's with or what he's doing? I honestly don't think that it's fair for you to stay in this relationship.

I know it isn't fair.. and I know that I'll still stress about it, and I can't ever trust him 100% anymore.. but, people can change right? Maybe I'll change, and I"ll believe him again.. one day. Maybe he really won't do it ever again, maybe he really will prove it to me, and gain my trust again...