what do you do when, things change feelings wise? |
 Jan 24 2009, 01:53 AM
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The title and topic description basically say it all, but allow me to clarify:
Say you are in a relationship for a semi decent amount of time, like 4 months or so and you realize that you no longer feel the same way about your significant other. Do you break up right away? Talk it out, maybe come to a mutual consensus about how to go about "working on things"? Pull the disappearing act where you avoid that person? How do you handle it? |
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Jan 24 2009, 02:00 AM
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Imo, the best thing to do is to talk about it. I don't think it's far for the other person to be given the cold shoulder or to be avoided. I wouldn't like that. If you really care about your significant other & want to work things out, try to spark up the relationship; go out on exciting dates, try different things, anything to spark excitement & get those feelings that you once had. I've also heard that spending time apart from someone is good. Try not seeing or communicating with each other for a few days & see what happens. It's suppose to make you "miss" that person & remind you why you're with them. I hope my advice helped. Good luck.
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Jan 24 2009, 02:08 AM
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QUOTE(manny-the-dino @ Jan 24 2009, 02:00 AM)  Imo, the best thing to do is to talk about it. I don't think it's far for the other person to be given the cold shoulder or to be avoided. I wouldn't like that. If you really care about your significant other & want to work things out, try to spark up the relationship; go out on exciting dates, try different things, anything to spark excitement & get those feelings that you once had. I've also heard that spending time apart from someone is good. Try not seeing or communicating with each other for a few days & see what happens. It's suppose to make you "miss" that person & remind you why you're with them. I hope my advice helped. Good luck. Sigh. The reason I ask is because I guess I'm going through a break up. I say I guess simply because we discussed it, the reason for it being my change in feelings & we agreed to him taking a few days to think things out. I'd say we're pretty much through, since I cannot imagine wanting to be with someone after they basically told me they don't see me as a romantic interest any longer, but simply an exceptionally close friend. He "adores" me though, and I know we will be friends, but it'll hurt him since his feelings have managed to remain stable & intact. I don't think dates & exciting things are going to be an option at this point while everything is out on the table awaiting finality. Thank you for your advice though. 
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mytangerine what do you do when Jan 24 2009, 01:53 AM
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