You still love your ex?, I really don't want to Options

[bambamboom]

My ex and i have been going out for about 9 months already. Then I dumped him because I felt he was going to dump me anyways. I felt so bad because I still had feelings for him. I started realizing this until later. Then as I threw myself back at him, he didn't want to go back. I cried and asked why? He said he still loves me but not in the way we use to love each other. Then after he told me he found another girl, she is pretty and it hurts because she is basically flirting and hitting on him while we went out.
He likes someone else.
I still love him.
I really need to get over him. Please help.
I'm a mess and depressed.
I really want to know if there is a chance for him and i to get back together.
He was my first.

[roseannetangrs]

I was in a very similar predicament. It's long, but read it.

We were each other's firsts, and we were going steady for a year. Along came a girl, my club's Vice President (of which I was President, of who I happen to have to work very closely with) who started pouncing on my boyfriend. She invited him over etc, and for some odd reason, he would always follow. My friends were telling me I was becoming a doormat so I approached him within reason about the situation. He blew up in my face telling me that I never would trust him, give him space. For two days, it felt like the world was going to end for in that two days, I felt that our relationship of which we thought was so special was coming to a complete and screaming halt.

I invited him over to my house and I wanted to see if really he had lost feelings for me. Maybe hanging out would make everything okay again. It didn't. He wouldn't hold my hand or anything. He didn't wear his ring we exchanged on our anniversary 3 weeks before and it felt like everything we had was gone. I knew what I had to do. I don't think people in this forum understand you when you said that you broke up with him because you felt that he was going to break up with you. I understand for I did the exact same thing. I had to. He told me he didn't love me anymore and I told myself, I had to find it within myself to do it, so that I could save a bit of dignity from this relationship - of this experience of being completely abandoned.

He cried like a waterfall. He apologized many many times for doing this to me. I cried insanely. I was in love with him. I felt like he led me to a well, a deep deep well, and willingly pushed me in. Every time I tried to grab the walls to climb back out, he would drizzle slime so that I would slip. And the other girl? He denied everything. But right after we broke up, RIGHT AFTER, they became magnets, always together, always a pair.When I heard she broke up with her boyfriend and said she was interested in my ex, my heart nearly stopped, it felt like I couldn't breathe. I was gasping for air. I was friends with her, I was her "boss", she was my vice president.

About a week later, I could not take it anymore. I was thinking over and over again, asking my friends whether he would give me a second chance. Why would he cry for a week if he didn't right? I gave him a call and I was greeted with harsh solemnity of "I don't believe you can change" and "I don't want you to be my slave," but most horrifyingly at that time.."No."

I gathered myself and tried to be his friend, of which he so wanted me to be. I tried to act like everything was okay and that I was perfectly fine. I tried talking to him on msn, acting with confidence..maybe if he saw that I didn't need him, he would want me back? Was there a sliver of hope? I had to decide, and it is something you have to decide.

Then came Halloween. The "other" girl invited me over to her party, I went. My friend group is in the same friend group..so I guess it would be plausible to hang out with my friends on Halloween. This was the worst mistake, but probably the best thing I did to realize I was so wrong about getting him back. She shoved it in my face, leaning on him, touching him, I was going to cry. I was so angry and depressed. And then, I told myself, "what the hell am I doing? Fight her, win him back in front of her face" and so I tried sitting next to him but when I saw his phone and her picture on it, I realized that there was nothing, simply nothing more that I could do.

That was the time I finally realized that I had been simply replaced with another girl and that it was time to do whatever I had to do to move on.

It was so hard for me. Sometimes, it still is. It's been 3 months. I couldn't sit at my table in the cafe because they would be there sitting with my friends (same friend group), I had to work with the slut all the time because she was my vp and I didn't use my position to my advantage (thank god, even though I really wanted to), and it was just really really really hard. I remember it being like the worst months I have ever experienced in my life. No matter how I tried to make it better, it felt that I couldn't be happy anymore.

2 weeks later, THEY became boyfriend and girlfriend - my life nearly ended.

But, I wouldn't trade the pain for what I've learned. I became strong, I knew that I was stronger than this.

The best thing I did for myself was to cut all communication. CUT IT OFF - that means no msn, no email, no facebook, no phone calls/contacts. I deleted everything I had. I threw the ring away, his letters..everything. Finally, I sent him an email saying that I was erasing and that we cannot talk until I was done. He replied saying that I could never be replaced in his heart. You have realize that this statement is bullcrap and that he is just playing with you!

Then, all you have to do is wait. Time really does heal everything, it makes things blurry, so that you don't remember a thing.

Just forget him, please. Believe you did the right thing, believe that maybe he wasn't right for you after all and then find someone who is perfect for you. I thought he was perfect for me, I wanted to eventually marry him, but I realized that he wasn't and it takes time to do that.

Just you wait..
I hope you feel better :)

[salcha4u]

I was in a very similar predicament. It's long, but read it.

We were each other's firsts, and we were going steady for a year. Along came a girl, my club's Vice President (of which I was President, of who I happen to have to work very closely with) who started pouncing on my boyfriend. She invited him over etc, and for some odd reason, he would always follow. My friends were telling me I was becoming a doormat so I approached him within reason about the situation. He blew up in my face telling me that I never would trust him, give him space. For two days, it felt like the world was going to end for in that two days, I felt that our relationship of which we thought was so special was coming to a complete and screaming halt.

I invited him over to my house and I wanted to see if really he had lost feelings for me. Maybe hanging out would make everything okay again. It didn't. He wouldn't hold my hand or anything. He didn't wear his ring we exchanged on our anniversary 3 weeks before and it felt like everything we had was gone. I knew what I had to do. I don't think people in this forum understand you when you said that you broke up with him because you felt that he was going to break up with you. I understand for I did the exact same thing. I had to. He told me he didn't love me anymore and I told myself, I had to find it within myself to do it, so that I could save a bit of dignity from this relationship - of this experience of being completely abandoned.

He cried like a waterfall. He apologized many many times for doing this to me. I cried insanely. I was in love with him. I felt like he led me to a well, a deep deep well, and willingly pushed me in. Every time I tried to grab the walls to climb back out, he would drizzle slime so that I would slip. And the other girl? He denied everything. But right after we broke up, RIGHT AFTER, they became magnets, always together, always a pair.When I heard she broke up with her boyfriend and said she was interested in my ex, my heart nearly stopped, it felt like I couldn't breathe. I was gasping for air. I was friends with her, I was her "boss", she was my vice president.

About a week later, I could not take it anymore. I was thinking over and over again, asking my friends whether he would give me a second chance. Why would he cry for a week if he didn't right? I gave him a call and I was greeted with harsh solemnity of "I don't believe you can change" and "I don't want you to be my slave," but most horrifyingly at that time.."No."

I gathered myself and tried to be his friend, of which he so wanted me to be. I tried to act like everything was okay and that I was perfectly fine. I tried talking to him on msn, acting with confidence..maybe if he saw that I didn't need him, he would want me back? Was there a sliver of hope? I had to decide, and it is something you have to decide.

Then came Halloween. The "other" girl invited me over to her party, I went. My friend group is in the same friend group..so I guess it would be plausible to hang out with my friends on Halloween. This was the worst mistake, but probably the best thing I did to realize I was so wrong about getting him back. She shoved it in my face, leaning on him, touching him, I was going to cry. I was so angry and depressed. And then, I told myself, "what the hell am I doing? Fight her, win him back in front of her face" and so I tried sitting next to him but when I saw his phone and her picture on it, I realized that there was nothing, simply nothing more that I could do.

That was the time I finally realized that I had been simply replaced with another girl and that it was time to do whatever I had to do to move on.

It was so hard for me. Sometimes, it still is. It's been 3 months. I couldn't sit at my table in the cafe because they would be there sitting with my friends (same friend group), I had to work with the slut all the time because she was my vp and I didn't use my position to my advantage (thank god, even though I really wanted to), and it was just really really really hard. I remember it being like the worst months I have ever experienced in my life. No matter how I tried to make it better, it felt that I couldn't be happy anymore.

2 weeks later, THEY became boyfriend and girlfriend - my life nearly ended.

But, I wouldn't trade the pain for what I've learned. I became strong, I knew that I was stronger than this.

The best thing I did for myself was to cut all communication. CUT IT OFF - that means no msn, no email, no facebook, no phone calls/contacts. I deleted everything I had. I threw the ring away, his letters..everything. Finally, I sent him an email saying that I was erasing and that we cannot talk until I was done. He replied saying that I could never be replaced in his heart. You have realize that this statement is bullcrap and that he is just playing with you!

Then, all you have to do is wait. Time really does heal everything, it makes things blurry, so that you don't remember a thing.

Just forget him, please. Believe you did the right thing, believe that maybe he wasn't right for you after all and then find someone who is perfect for you. I thought he was perfect for me, I wanted to eventually marry him, but I realized that he wasn't and it takes time to do that.

Just you wait..
I hope you feel better :)

Wow, I actually felt sad reading that ): and I don't even feel sad when I watch krn dramas.