How to become more comfortable with my body, sexually. Options

[heatherb16]

So I've been dating this guy for 10 months now. I'm still a virgin, but the more I think about it, I'd like to go further with him, possibly or possibly not, sex. This guy means everything to me and there's no one else I'd rather be with. Well, getting to the point. I'm 16, 5'5'' and around 120 pounds. I've never considered myself fat, or overweight, but slowly, I'm starting to realize, as he and I are getting closer, its very hard for me to be comfortable with my body. Every time we try to do something new, I back off. It's a natural reaction for me, and really, I feel bad for him. It's nothing he is doing wrong, it's my own insecurities with myself. It's not that I feel uncomfortable trying these new things, because deep down I really would like to go further with him. I try to push myself to become secure with my body, but for some reason I can't. Any advice?

[karmakiller]

You need to stop trying to force yourself to be comfortable with who you are, you have to let it happen. A lot of people gain confidence when they accept themselves and grow into who they are and become secure with the person that they are. You need to figure out what makes you insecure and start at the root of the problem rather than trying to cover it up. Be honest with your boyfriend, let him know when you aren't comfortable and work together to find ways to assure that you are more comfortable. If you don't tell him, he will think that it's something he's doing and it might make him a little insecure, too. On the other hand, if anyone pressures you to do something you're not comfortable with, then they don't respect and you probably aren't worth your attention.